We'll Never Be Perfect
One should be satisfied with the fact that we have achieved what we have achieved.
It's not nothing.
Hi There, Steve Kaufmann here.
Uh, today I want to talk about perfectionism in language learning.
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Now, what do I mean by perfectionism?
I think I, I could also turn perfectionism in language learning,
the sort of the desire to perform.
How did I do?
I've compared that urge to sort of be judged or the fear to be judged.
It's sort of like a, an Olympic diver and to me, language learning
is very different from Olympic diving or any kind of performance.
We learn languages in order to communicate.
So this might mean in order to understand the movie in order to watch a series on
Netflix and get a sense of some, maybe distorted sense of the culture, but
nevertheless, to enjoy that experience, to understand, and also to communicate,
to speak, communicate ideas, communicate feelings, it's all about communication.
So now of course we would all like to speak, you know, as well as
we can, as correctly as we can.
And to that extent, it is useful to every now and again, study grammar.
Uh, because there are things when we just listen and read that we don't notice
in the language, I've said this before.
Some things have to be pointed out to us.
And even after they're pointed out to us, we still won't get them right.
I mean, again, we've had this experience of correcting a mistake and making the
same mistake again and again and again.
And the reason that happens is because in my mind, the process of learning
a language is a process of creating new neural connections in the brain.
Uh, the brain establishing some patterns, uh, us slowly getting used to this new
language, but we get used to it, or we get accustomed to it in a very individual way.
It's very much influenced by our native language.
Uh, and so some people are going to, you know, acquire a, a series of habits
in the language that might be, uh, with better pronunciation or worst
pronunciation, or more grammatically correct or less grammatically correct.
While we want to get better, we shouldn't be so worried about how
we're doing, worried about how we're being judged that we miss the
main goal, which is communication.
Uh, and, and I, the reason I bring this up right now is becasue amongst the comments
here, someone said, oh, Steve, you know...
in fact I get those quite often...
you say you speak 20 languages.
In fact, you don't.
The other day you spoke Italian and you were very rusty and so forth and so on.
True.
And there are languages that I have spoken and I would have trouble
speaking right now, at least initially, but those are still languages that
I have invested a lot of time into.
Those are languages, like say Korean, where I'm not at all happy at my
ability to produce the language or even to understand the language.
I have, at least on our count at LingQ a large, uh, passive vocabulary.
I understand how the language works, the structures in the language, because I've
seen these patterns so many, many times, but I haven't been using it and therefore
I can't speak it very well if at all.
Uh, well I can speak it, but not very well.
And, uh, but if I were to go to Korea, it wouldn't take me a day or two before
I would be able to speak fairly well.
When I was in Greece or Prague or Romania, I was also communicating.
Communicating, not perfectly, but communicating.
So languages that we learn to a degree, which is less than perfect, those are
still languages that we have learned to some extent, we have enjoyed
learning, we have discovered bits of.
And if that is true for languages that I don't speak as well as I would like, say
Italian, which might be my 10th language.
It's also true for someone who is learning their first foreign language.
In other words, it's always not quite as good as we would like.
However, it's very much a personal thing.
It's your foreign language.
It's your English, it's your Italian, it's your Spanish.
And one should be satisfied with the fact that we have
achieved what we have achieved.
It's not nothing, even though we would all like to improve.
And that's another reason why we've had this debate before here
about pitch accent in Japanese.
I lived in Japan for nine years.
I've been speaking Japanese for 40, 50 years.
Never even knew until recently that there was such a thing as pitch accent.
It never prevented me from communicating.
I do not believe the Japanese people by and large are bothered
by someone who has improper pitch accent, whatever that might mean.
Um, we don't need to seek perfection.
We don't need to.
There's nothing wrong with aspiring to achieve perfection.
There's nothing wrong with focusing on one language and trying to be as
accurate with the grammar as possible, trying to get pitch accent, write
in Japanese and all of these other things, but it's not necessary.
And if you don't do those things, you can still enjoy the language.
You can still say you speak the language, uh, because you know,
performing to a degree of perfection is a very limited aspect of what's
involved in learning a language.
And I think to the extent that people are concerned about nailing these things down,
it probably inhibits them and it reduces the enjoyment of language learning.
It makes us less likely to engage with the language, to speak the language.
And we all know that the more we engage with the language, the more we
listen, the more we read, the more we speak, the more we make mistakes, the
more we're going to improve in time.
So, uh, I just mention that because people often say, well, you say speak 20...
You say you speak 20 languages, but you're not very good at any of them.
And yeah, I'm not going to be as good in 20 languages as
someone who focuses on one.
And there's always people who are better than me, better than you.
It doesn't matter.
It doesn't take away from the enjoyment that we can all achieve in
learning one or more foreign language.
So that's what I had to say about the pursuit of perfectionism.
Thank you for listening.