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Slavica Squire, GLUPE GREŠKE kojima sebi otežavate život

GLUPE GREŠKE kojima sebi otežavate život

Dragi moji, dobro mi došli!

Ja sam Slavica i ovo je moj YouTube kanal

i ovde svakog četvrtka dobijate razne

interesantne i korisne savete

kako da kreirate život

i posao koje ćete da obožavate.

U današnjem videu radi se o tome

da u stvari mi jako često

zafrkavamo sebe

onim što razmišljamo.

Znači, da naša razmišljanja često

nisu uopšte korisna

da kreiramo svoj život

kakav zaista želimo da bude

i da nas ona sprečavaju u tome.

Razna istraživanja su pokazala, u stvari,

da naše blagostanje,

naš uspeh, naša sreća

mnogo više zavise od našeg načina razmišljanja

nego od okolnosti.

Kažu čak da okolnosti utiču na to

samo 20%

a 80 % način na koji mi razmišljamo.

E sad,

Šta je u stvari problem? Problem je u tome što mi

mi tokom vremena usvojimo razne obrasce razmišljanja

neke, u stvari, navike

kako mi procenjujemo stvari,

kako razmišljamo o stvarima,

koje nam uopšte nisu korisne.

I vrlo često ih uopšte nismo svesni

i zato ne možemo ni da ih promenimo.

I što je još gore, mi ih čak

vrlo često razmišljamo o tome

da mi ne možemo da se promenimo,

a u stvari, možemo!

I u tome i jeste stvar svega što ja ovde radim

da promenite način na koji razmišljate o sebi i svojim mogućnostima.

Zato danas hoću da vas uputim na nekoliko

tih grešaka u razmišljanju

koje su ključno važne

koje se sigurno i vama dešavaju

a razni naučnici su, na primer,

razni psiholozi, na primer,

Albert Ellis i Aaron Beck

oni su započeli razmišljanje na tu temu

kako, u stvari, iracionalni način razmišljanja

i te neke naše greške u razmišljanju utiču

na to da se osećamo nelagodno

da čak kreiramo strahove u našem životu

i da to onda pokreće određenu spiralu

u našem životu

koja dovodi do jednog lošeg stanja i

do toga da ne možemo da uspemo da

ostvarimo svoje ciljeve uopšte.

Ja ću danas da vam navedem nekoliko

od tih grešaka u razmišljanju

kako biste vi obratili pažnju da li se to i vama dešava

i na kraju ću vam dati

ideju šta da radite s tim, kako možete sebi da pomognete

da izađete iz tih negativnih obrazaca

koji vam u stvari

čine život teškim

otežavaju vam nepotrebno život

i sprečavaju da budete i da

postanete ono što zaista želite da postanete.

Prvi taj obrazac koji je

greška, kojom mi u stvari sami sebe

zafrkavamo ponekad,

je ideja o tome

sve ili ništa.

Kao: "Ako se sad ne desi ovo, onda nikad ništa neće da bude"

Kao da je u pitanju

nešto što utiče na celu našu budućnost.

Na primer, ili: "Ako me sada ne prime na ovaj posao, kraj je mog života"

"Moja budućnost je upropaštena"

"Ako sada dobijem otkaz, onda me nikad u životu niko neće primiti" i tako dalje.

Znači, problem je u tome što ljudi na osnovu tih nekih

razmišljanja, donose zaključke koji

koji onda važe za čitavu

budućnost.

Kao da je to tačno i da može da se primeni na čitavu budućnost.

"Ako se sada razvedem, više nikada neću naći partnera"

I to ste verovatno čuli ljude da govore

a možda ste i sami bili nekada u tome.

I to onda pokreće spiralu

emocija, strahova

postupaka koji ne vode u blagostanje

i koji su stvarno samo štetni.

Na primer, još jedna od tih grešaka u razmišljanju je

personalizacija.

Kada se nešto nekome desi,

on onda razmišlja da se to samo njemu dešava.

Pa na primer,

prijavi se za neki posao i tamo ga ne prime

Ne prime ga možda zato što su prestali da primaju nove saradnike

ili zato što je kriza nastupila ili šta ja znam,

ali taj misli da je do njega.

"Opet se meni to dešava"

"MENI se samo to dešava"

Dobije na primer, kaznu za parkiranje i kaže

"Samo meni! Evo, svi su tu parkirani"

"Samo ja dobijem tu kaznu"

Ili na primer,

pozove na primer prijateljicu i kaže

"Volela bih da se nađemo večeras i da idemo na kafu"

a prijateljica kaže: "Jao, stvarno nemam vremena"

i možda stvarno nema vremena, jer ima neke druge planove,

"Eto, neće sa mnom da se vidi"

"Ona mene ne voli. Ne voli sa mnom da provodi vreme"

i tako dalje. Znači jednostavno sve što se dešava

nekako misle da je

u vezi sa njima.

A vrlo često nije.

I to im onda povlači tu spiralu da misle da nešto

s njima nije u redu i znate, to već ide

dalje i opet dovodi do toga da

jednostavno ne možemo da ostvarimo ciljeve

i ne možemo da

budemo osoba kakva želimo da budemo, zato što

pravimo tu grešku u proceni

takozvana greška u proceni.

Ili, takozvana kognitivna distorzija.

I još jedna koju bih rado pomenula

A to je

katastofizacija

ili pravljenje od komarca magarca.

Desi se jedna stvar i to je onda "katastrofa"

"Ako se to desi, to je katastrofa, to je pitanje života i smrti"

"To je nešto najgore što može da se desi".

I sigurna sam da poznajete takve ljude i da znate tačno o čemu pričam.

Kada ljudi imaju utisak da

eto, ako se to desi

to je onda smak sveta

kraj sveta, gotovo je

sa nama, sa životom, sa poslom,

sa svim i svačim je gotovo

i vrlo često ljudi to

u braku, u poslu koriste

i to im jako, jako smeta, zato što

to jednostavno nije tako.

i ne razmatraju uopšte

činjenicu da je njihov sud

pogrešan i da

jednostavno preteruju

i da prave od nečega malog nešto veliko.

To je nešto zbog čega bih ja volela da vi zaista

promislite o tome da li vi to radite.

Da li vi to sebi radite?

a onda i svima onima koji su vama važni za vaš život.

Ono što je, takođe, jedna greška u razmišljanju

su generalizacije.

Kada na osnovu jednog iskustva

na osnovu jednog nečega što se desilo,

vi pomislite

da je sve bezveze i to zauvek.

I to je stvarno velika šteta.

Ali mnogi ljudi razmišljaju na taj način.

Pa ne znam, žena ako je imala

jednom nekog bezveznjaka, onda

poveže za ceo život da su svi muškarci bezveze.

Što je velika šteta, jer postoje divni muškarci.

Ili, na primer,

ako je jednom imala problema sa

ljudima iz HR-a, misle da su oni svi onako

hladni i bezobrazni

nekako nelojalni i

da nisu kako treba.

Što uopšte nije tačno!

I tako dalje. Znači ima puno stvari

Nešto se jednom desi i onda kao:

to je zauvek tako i

i svi su takvi

To su sve stvari koje čine da se ne osećamo dobro

da upadamo u strahove

da upadamo u ideju o tome da nismo dovoljno dobri

i da nas jednostavno sprečava da ostvarimo svoje ciljeve

a uopšte nije tačno!

Ja stalno govorim mojim polaznicima

na edukacijama

u životu vas neće sprečiti da

postanete srećni i uspešni

nešto što

što ne znate, što niste naučili

nego ono u šta 100 posto verujete, a što uopšte nije tačno.

To su te gluposti koje mi verujemo o sebi

a koje uopšte nisu tačne.

Imamo loše procene

ali mi verujemo da su naše procene 100 % tačne.

A vrlo često se varamo!

Koliko se često vama desi da ste pomislili da će nešto biti tako

pa nije bilo tako uopšte?

Znači, čak se prevarimo i kada nemamo taj obrazac

a naročito kada ljudi imaju

te negativne obrasce razmišljanja

a non-stop se nalaze u iluziji

svog negativnog razmišljanja

o sebi, o svetu i

o okruženju.

Tako da je jako bitno, prva stvar

koju možete da uradite, a ovde se postavlja pitanje

šta možete vi da uradite protiv toga

prva stvar koju možete da uradite je da

krenete da lovite sebe

da li vi sebe zafrkavate?

Onda kažete sebi: "Ej, aman!"

"Čemu takva negativna razmišljanja"

"svakoga dana non-stop"

Hajde da uhvatite sebe kada razmišljate tako

i onda da se kao malo distsncirate od toga

i da postavite sebi pitanje

da li postoji neki primer kada nije bilo tako?

Jel bila neka situacija kada nije bilo tako?

Na osnovu kojih kriterijuma uopšte

donosiš taj zaključak da je tako?

Na osnovu kojih kriterijuma procenjuješ to?

Postoje li neki argumenti koji govore

potpuno suprotno?

I postoje li ljudi kojima

koji su, ne znam, dobili otkaz, pa su našli posao?

Ili koji su se razveli, pa su našli ljubav svog života?

Znači, bilo šta ako generalizujete,

ali postoji barem jedan muškarac na ovom svetu koji nije bezveze

ili: da li postoji barem jedna ljubazna

osoba koja radi u HR-u?

Znači, da postavite sebi pitanja

koja vas teraju

da razmislite malo dalje

od toga u šta ste se zakopali

a ako je to neko drugi, neko koga volite,

koga cenite i do koga vam je stalo,

i vi vidite da se zakopa u nekoj

grešci, da jednostavno ima grešku u razmišljanju koja

ga sprečava da postigne svoj cilj,

postavite mu jedno od ovih pitanja:

"Na osnovu čega si to procenio?"

"Koje kriterijume si uzeo?"

"Postoje li neki drugi primeri?"

"Da li možda ima barem jedan primer"

"Suprotan od toga" i tako dalje

da pokrenete samo razmišljanje.

Nemojte davati argumente

Davanje argumenata će samo

da naiđe na otpor

nego postavljajte pitanja

jer pitanja pokreću na razmišljanje.

A pokrenuti nekoga na razmišljanje veliki je blagoslov

naročito ako ste to vi

ali i za druge ljude je to važno

naročito u kontaktu sa ljudima koje volite, do kojih vam je stalo

da ih pokrenete na razmišljanje, jer samo onaj ko

ko razmišlja

može da promeni mišljenje.

Onaj ko je u otporu

zato što ste vi rekli: "Nije tako, nego je ovako",

ne, on ne razmišlja, on se samo brani.

Brani svoje mišljenje. Zato nemojte

argumentovati protiv, nego jednostavno pitajte.

Osobu pitajte da li postoje neki argumenti

koji bi možda bili drugačiji.

Nadam se da vam je ovo bilo korisno

i ako jeste, onda

pritisnite like,

dajte mi jedan lajk

i pritisnite subscribe

i zvonce da vas

obavestimo kad god ima nešto novo

na našem kanalu

što može da doprinese

vašem životu, vašem uspehu i vašoj sreći.

Vidimo se!

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GLUPE GREŠKE kojima sebi otežavate život STUPID|MISTAKES|by which|yourself|make harder|life ||||gør det sværere| DUMME FEHLER, die einem das Leben schwer machen ГЛУПЫЕ ОШИБКИ, которые усложняют себе жизнь STUPID MISTAKES that make your life harder

Dragi moji, dobro mi došli! Dear|my|well|to me|you have come My dear ones, welcome!

Ja sam Slavica i ovo je moj YouTube kanal I|am|Slavica|and|this|is|my|YouTube|channel I am Slavica and this is my YouTube channel

i ovde svakog četvrtka dobijate razne and|here|every|Thursday|you receive|various |||||forskellige and here every Thursday you will receive various

interesantne i korisne savete interesting|and|useful|advice interesting and useful tips

kako da kreirate život how|to|create|life how to create a life

i posao koje ćete da obožavate. |||||lieben and|job|that|you will|to|love |||||elske and a job that you will love.

U današnjem videu radi se o tome In|today's|video|it is|reflexive pronoun|about|that In today's video, it is about

da u stvari mi jako često ja||||| yes|in|fact|we|very|often the fact that we very often

zafrkavamo sebe we joke|ourselves driller| mess with ourselves.

onim što razmišljamo. that|what|we think about what we think.

Znači, da naša razmišljanja često So|that|our|thoughts|often This means that our thoughts often

nisu uopšte korisna are not|at all|useful are not useful at all

da kreiramo svoj život to|create|our|life for creating our life

kakav zaista želimo da bude what kind of|really|we want|to|be the way we truly want it to be.

i da nas ona sprečavaju u tome. and|that|us|she|prevents|in|that and that they prevent us from doing so.

Razna istraživanja su pokazala, u stvari, Various|research|have|shown|in|fact |undersøgelser|||| Various studies have shown, in fact,

da naše blagostanje, that|our|prosperity ||velfærd that our well-being,

naš uspeh, naša sreća our|success|our|happiness our success, our happiness

mnogo više zavise od našeg načina razmišljanja much|more|depend|on|our|way|thinking depend much more on our way of thinking.

nego od okolnosti. but|by|circumstances but rather from circumstances.

Kažu čak da okolnosti utiču na to They say|even|that|circumstances|influence|on|it They even say that circumstances affect

samo 20% only only 20%

a 80 % način na koji mi razmišljamo. 80%|way|on|which|we|think and 80% the way we think.

E sad, And|now Now,

Šta je u stvari problem? Problem je u tome što mi What|is|in|fact|problem|The problem|is|in|that|that|us What is the problem, really? The problem is that we

mi tokom vremena usvojimo razne obrasce razmišljanja we|over|time|adopt|various|patterns|thinking we adopt various patterns of thinking over time

neke, u stvari, navike some|in|fact|habits some, in fact, habits

kako mi procenjujemo stvari, how|we|evaluate|things how we assess things,

kako razmišljamo o stvarima, how|we think|about|things how we think about things,

koje nam uopšte nisu korisne. which|to us|at all|are not|useful which are not useful to us at all.

I vrlo često ih uopšte nismo svesni We|very|often|them|at all|are not|aware And very often we are not even aware of them

i zato ne možemo ni da ih promenimo. and|that's why|not|we can|either|to|them|change and therefore we cannot change them.

I što je još gore, mi ih čak And|what|is|even|worse|we|them|even And what is even worse, we even

vrlo često razmišljamo o tome very|often|we think|about|it very often think about them.

da mi ne možemo da se promenimo, that|we|not|can|to|ourselves|change that we cannot change,

a u stvari, možemo! but|in|fact|we can but in fact, we can!

I u tome i jeste stvar svega što ja ovde radim I|in|that|and|is|essence|everything|that|I|here|do And that is the essence of everything I do here

da promenite način na koji razmišljate o sebi i svojim mogućnostima. to|change|way|in|which|think|about|yourself|and|your|possibilities to change the way you think about yourself and your possibilities.

Zato danas hoću da vas uputim na nekoliko That's why|today|I want|to|you|direct|to|several So today I want to point you to a few

tih grešaka u razmišljanju such|mistakes|in|thinking those thinking errors

koje su ključno važne ||schlüssig| which|are|crucially|important that are critically important

koje se sigurno i vama dešavaju |||||passieren which|(reflexive particle)|surely|and|to you|happen that surely happen to you as well

a razni naučnici su, na primer, and|various|scientists|are|in|example and various scientists have, for example,

razni psiholozi, na primer, various|psychologists|for|example various psychologists, for example,

Albert Ellis i Aaron Beck Albert|Ellis|and|Aaron|Beck Albert Ellis and Aaron Beck

oni su započeli razmišljanje na tu temu |||Nachdenken||| they|are|started|thinking|on|that|topic they started thinking on that topic

kako, u stvari, iracionalni način razmišljanja |||irationaler|| how|in|fact|irrational|way|thinking how, in fact, irrational ways of thinking

i te neke naše greške u razmišljanju utiču and|those|some|our|mistakes|in|thinking|affect and some of our thinking errors affect

na to da se osećamo nelagodno ||||fühlen|unwohl to|that|to|ourselves|feel|uncomfortable how we feel uncomfortable

da čak kreiramo strahove u našem životu |||Ängste||| that|even|we create|fears|in|our|life that we even create fears in our lives

i da to onda pokreće određenu spiralu and|that|it|then|triggers|certain|spiral and that this then triggers a certain spiral

u našem životu in|our|life in our lives

koja dovodi do jednog lošeg stanja i |führt||||Zustand| which|leads|to|one|bad|state|and which leads to a bad state and

do toga da ne možemo da uspemo da to|that|we|not|can|to|succeed|to to the point where we cannot succeed in

ostvarimo svoje ciljeve uopšte. erreichen||| we achieve|our|goals|in general let's achieve our goals in general.

Ja ću danas da vam navedem nekoliko I|will|today|to|you (plural/formal)|mention|several Today, I will point out a few

od tih grešaka u razmišljanju from|those|mistakes|in|thinking of those thinking errors

kako biste vi obratili pažnju da li se to i vama dešava how|would|you|pay|attention|whether|question particle|reflexive pronoun|that|also|to you|happens so that you can pay attention to whether this is happening to you as well

i na kraju ću vam dati and|at||I will|to you|give and in the end, I will give you

ideju šta da radite s tim, kako možete sebi da pomognete idea|what|to|do|with|that|how|can|yourself|to|help an idea of what to do with it, how you can help yourself

da izađete iz tih negativnih obrazaca to|exit|from|those|negative|patterns to get out of those negative patterns

koji vam u stvari which|to you|in|fact that actually

čine život teškim make|life|difficult make your life difficult

otežavaju vam nepotrebno život complicate|your|unnecessarily|life unnecessarily complicate your life

i sprečavaju da budete i da and|prevent|from|being|and|from and prevent you from being and becoming

postanete ono što zaista želite da postanete. become|what|that|truly|want|to|become what you truly want to become.

Prvi taj obrazac koji je The first|that|form|which|is The first pattern that is

greška, kojom mi u stvari sami sebe mistake|by which|we|in|fact|ourselves|ourselves a mistake, by which we actually

zafrkavamo ponekad, we joke|sometimes fool ourselves sometimes,

je ideja o tome is|idea|about|that is the idea about this

sve ili ništa. all|or|nothing all or nothing.

Kao: "Ako se sad ne desi ovo, onda nikad ništa neće da bude" Like|If|reflexive particle|now|not|happens|this|then|never|anything|will not|to|be Like: "If this doesn't happen now, then nothing will ever happen"

Kao da je u pitanju As|if|is|in|question As if it is about

nešto što utiče na celu našu budućnost. something|that|influences|on|entire|our|future something that affects our entire future.

Na primer, ili: "Ako me sada ne prime na ovaj posao, kraj je mog života" For|example|or|If|me|now|not|hire|for|this|job|end|is|my|life For example, or: "If I am not hired for this job now, my life is over."

"Moja budućnost je upropaštena" My|future|is|ruined "My future is ruined."

"Ako sada dobijem otkaz, onda me nikad u životu niko neće primiti" i tako dalje. If|now|I receive|termination|then|me|never|in|life|no one|will|hire||| "If I get fired now, then no one will ever hire me in my life," and so on.

Znači, problem je u tome što ljudi na osnovu tih nekih So|problem|is|in|that|that|people|on|the basis of|those|some So, the problem is that people, based on those kinds of

razmišljanja, donose zaključke koji thoughts|bring|conclusions|that thoughts, draw conclusions that

koji onda važe za čitavu which|then|apply|for|entire which then apply to the whole

budućnost. future future.

Kao da je to tačno i da može da se primeni na čitavu budućnost. As|that|is|it|true|and|that|can|to|reflexive particle|applied|to|entire|future As if that is true and can be applied to the entire future.

"Ako se sada razvedem, više nikada neću naći partnera" If|reflexive pronoun|now|divorce|ever|never|I will not|find|partner "If I get divorced now, I will never find a partner again"

I to ste verovatno čuli ljude da govore You|have|are|probably|heard|people|to|speak And you have probably heard people say that.

a možda ste i sami bili nekada u tome. and|maybe|you|also|alone|were|once|in|that and maybe you have been in that situation yourself.

I to onda pokreće spiralu I|then|triggers|starts|spiral And that then triggers a spiral

emocija, strahova emotion|of fears of emotions, fears

postupaka koji ne vode u blagostanje actions|which|not|lead|to|prosperity actions that do not lead to well-being

i koji su stvarno samo štetni. and|which|are|really|only|harmful and that are really just harmful.

Na primer, još jedna od tih grešaka u razmišljanju je For|example|another|one|of|those|mistakes|in|thinking|is For example, another one of those thinking errors is

personalizacija. personalization personalization.

Kada se nešto nekome desi, When|(reflexive particle)|something|to someone|happens When something happens to someone,

on onda razmišlja da se to samo njemu dešava. he|then|thinks|that|himself|it|only|to him|happens they then think that it only happens to them.

Pa na primer, So|for|example So for example,

prijavi se za neki posao i tamo ga ne prime apply|reflexive pronoun|for|some|job|and|there|him|not|accept apply for a job and they don't accept him there

Ne prime ga možda zato što su prestali da primaju nove saradnike He|accepts|him|maybe|that's why|that|they|stopped|to|accept|new|collaborators They might not accept him because they stopped taking new collaborators

ili zato što je kriza nastupila ili šta ja znam, or|because|that|(is)|crisis|occurred|or|what|I|know or because a crisis has occurred or who knows,

ali taj misli da je do njega. but|he|thinks|that|is|to|him but he thinks it's because of him.

"Opet se meni to dešava" Again|(reflexive particle)|to me|that|happens "This is happening to me again"

"MENI se samo to dešava" to me|reflexive pronoun|only|that|happens "This only happens to me"

Dobije na primer, kaznu za parkiranje i kaže He/She receives|for|example|fine|for|parking|and|says For example, he gets a parking ticket and says

"Samo meni! Evo, svi su tu parkirani" Only|to me|Here|everyone|are|here|parked "Only to me! Look, everyone is parked here"

"Samo ja dobijem tu kaznu" Only|I|receive|that|fine "Only I get this ticket"

Ili na primer, Or|at|example Or for example,

pozove na primer prijateljicu i kaže he calls|for|example|friend|and|he says calls a friend for example and says

"Volela bih da se nađemo večeras i da idemo na kafu" I would love|conditional particle|to|ourselves|we meet|tonight|and|to|we go|for|coffee "I would love to meet tonight and go for coffee"

a prijateljica kaže: "Jao, stvarno nemam vremena" and|my friend|says|Oh no|really|I don't have|time and the friend says: "Oh, I really don't have time"

i možda stvarno nema vremena, jer ima neke druge planove, and|maybe|really|doesn't have|time|because|has|some|other|plans and maybe she really doesn't have time, because she has other plans,

"Eto, neće sa mnom da se vidi" There|won't|with|me|to|himself|see "See, she doesn't want to meet with me"

"Ona mene ne voli. Ne voli sa mnom da provodi vreme" She|me|not|loves|Not|loves|with|me|to|spends|time "She doesn't love me. She doesn't want to spend time with me."

i tako dalje. Znači jednostavno sve što se dešava and|so|on|It means|simply|everything|that|reflexive particle|happens and so on. So simply everything that is happening

nekako misle da je somehow|they think|that|is they somehow think is

u vezi sa njima. in|relation|with|them related to them.

A vrlo često nije. And|very|often|is not And very often it isn't.

I to im onda povlači tu spiralu da misle da nešto I|to|them|then|pulls|that|spiral|to|think|that|something And that then pulls them into this spiral of thinking that something

s njima nije u redu i znate, to već ide with|them|is not|in|right|and|you know|that|already|goes is wrong with them and you know, that already goes

dalje i opet dovodi do toga da further|and|again|leads|to|that|to further and again leads to the fact that

jednostavno ne možemo da ostvarimo ciljeve simply|not|we can|to|achieve|goals we simply cannot achieve our goals

i ne možemo da and|not|we can|to and we cannot

budemo osoba kakva želimo da budemo, zato što we are|person|what kind of|we want|to|be|that's why|because we become the person we want to be, because

pravimo tu grešku u proceni we make|that|mistake|in|judgment we make that mistake in judgment

takozvana greška u proceni. so-called|mistake|in|judgment the so-called mistake in judgment.

Ili, takozvana kognitivna distorzija. Or|so-called|cognitive|distortion Or, the so-called cognitive distortion.

I još jedna koju bih rado pomenula I|another|one|whom|I would|gladly|mentioned And one more that I would like to mention

A to je And|that|is And that is

katastofizacija catastrophization catastrophization

ili pravljenje od komarca magarca. or|making|from|mosquito|donkey or making a donkey out of a mosquito.

Desi se jedna stvar i to je onda "katastrofa" happens|reflexive pronoun|one|thing|and|that|is|then|catastrophe One thing happens and then it is a "catastrophe"

"Ako se to desi, to je katastrofa, to je pitanje života i smrti" If|reflexive particle|that|happens|it|is|catastrophe|it|is|question|of life|and|death "If that happens, it is a catastrophe, it is a matter of life and death"

"To je nešto najgore što može da se desi". It|is|something|worst|that|can|to|(reflexive particle)|happen "That is the worst thing that can happen."

I sigurna sam da poznajete takve ljude i da znate tačno o čemu pričam. I|sure|am|that|you know|such|people|and|that|you know|exactly|about|what|I am talking And I am sure you know such people and that you know exactly what I am talking about.

Kada ljudi imaju utisak da When|people|have|impression|that When people have the impression that

eto, ako se to desi here||it|that|happens well, if that happens

to je onda smak sveta it|is|then|end|of the world then it is the end of the world.

kraj sveta, gotovo je end|of the world|it's over| the end of the world, it's over

sa nama, sa životom, sa poslom, with|us|with|life|with|work with us, with life, with work,

sa svim i svačim je gotovo with|everything|and|anything|is|over it's over with everything and anything

i vrlo često ljudi to and|very|often|people|that and very often people use that

u braku, u poslu koriste in|marriage|in|work|they use in marriage, in work.

i to im jako, jako smeta, zato što and|that|them|very|very|bothers|that's why|because and that really, really bothers them, because

to jednostavno nije tako. it|simply|is not|that way it's just not like that.

i ne razmatraju uopšte and|not|consider|at all and they don't consider at all

činjenicu da je njihov sud fact|that|is|their|court the fact that their judgment

pogrešan i da wrong|and|yes is wrong and that

jednostavno preteruju they simply|exaggerate they simply exaggerate

i da prave od nečega malog nešto veliko. and|to|make|from|something|small|something|big and make something small into something big.

To je nešto zbog čega bih ja volela da vi zaista It|is|something|because|of which|I would|I|liked|to|you|really This is something I would like you to really

promislite o tome da li vi to radite. think|about|that|whether|question particle|you|it|do think about whether you do this.

Da li vi to sebi radite? Do|question particle|you|that|to yourself|do Are you doing this to yourself?

a onda i svima onima koji su vama važni za vaš život. and|then|to|everyone|those|who|are|you|important|for|your|life and then to all those who are important to you in your life.

Ono što je, takođe, jedna greška u razmišljanju What|that|is|also|one|mistake|in|thinking What is also a mistake in thinking

su generalizacije. are|generalizations is generalizations.

Kada na osnovu jednog iskustva When|on|the basis of|one|experience When based on one experience

na osnovu jednog nečega što se desilo, on|the basis of|one|something|that|(reflexive particle)|happened based on one thing that happened,

vi pomislite you|think you think

da je sve bezveze i to zauvek. that|is|everything|pointless|and|that|forever that everything is pointless and it will be forever.

I to je stvarno velika šteta. I|it|is|really|big|shame And that is really a great shame.

Ali mnogi ljudi razmišljaju na taj način. But|many|people|think|in|that|way But many people think that way.

Pa ne znam, žena ako je imala well|not|I know|woman|if|she|had Well, I don't know, if a woman has had

jednom nekog bezveznjaka, onda once|some|fool|then once with some jerk, then

poveže za ceo život da su svi muškarci bezveze. connects|for|whole|life|that|are|all|men|worthless they connect it for a lifetime that all men are jerks.

Što je velika šteta, jer postoje divni muškarci. What|is|great|shame|because|there are|wonderful|men Which is a great shame, because there are wonderful men.

Ili, na primer, Or|at|example Or, for example,

ako je jednom imala problema sa if|she|once|had|problems|with if she once had problems with

ljudima iz HR-a, misle da su oni svi onako to people|from|||they think|that|are|they|all|like that people from HR think that they are all like that

hladni i bezobrazni cold|and|rude cold and rude

nekako nelojalni i somehow|disloyal|and somehow disloyal and

da nisu kako treba. that|are not|how|should that they are not as they should be.

Što uopšte nije tačno! What|at all|is not|true Which is not true at all!

I tako dalje. Znači ima puno stvari And|so|on|means|there are|many|things And so on. So there are many things.

Nešto se jednom desi i onda kao: Something|(reflexive particle)|once|happens|and|then|like Something happens once and then it's like:

to je zauvek tako i it|is|forever|so|and that's forever like that and

i svi su takvi and|everyone|are|like that everyone is like that.

To su sve stvari koje čine da se ne osećamo dobro Those|are|all|things|that|make|to|ourselves|not|feel|well These are all things that make us feel bad.

da upadamo u strahove to|fall into|into|fears to fall into fears

da upadamo u ideju o tome da nismo dovoljno dobri to|fall|into|idea|about|that|to|we are not|good enough|good to fall into the idea that we are not good enough

i da nas jednostavno sprečava da ostvarimo svoje ciljeve and|to|us|simply|prevents|from|achieving|our|goals and that it simply prevents us from achieving our goals

a uopšte nije tačno! but|at all|is not|true and that is not true at all!

Ja stalno govorim mojim polaznicima I|always|speak|my|students I constantly tell my students

na edukacijama at|trainings in training

u životu vas neće sprečiti da in|life|you|will not|prevent|from in life will not prevent you from

postanete srećni i uspešni you become|happy|and|successful becoming happy and successful

nešto što something|that something that

što ne znate, što niste naučili what|not|you know|what|you are not|learned that you do not know, that you have not learned

nego ono u šta 100 posto verujete, a što uopšte nije tačno. but|that|in|what|percent|believe|and|which|at all|is not|true but rather what you believe 100 percent, which is not true at all.

To su te gluposti koje mi verujemo o sebi Those|are|those|nonsense|that|we|believe|about|ourselves These are the nonsense we believe about ourselves

a koje uopšte nisu tačne. and|which|at all|are not|correct that are not true at all.

Imamo loše procene We have|poor|estimates We have poor assessments

ali mi verujemo da su naše procene 100 % tačne. but|we|believe|that|are|our|estimates|accurate but we believe that our assessments are 100% accurate.

A vrlo često se varamo! And|very|often|ourselves|deceive And we often deceive ourselves!

Koliko se često vama desi da ste pomislili da će nešto biti tako How much|(reflexive particle)|often|to you|happens|that|you were|thought|that|will|something|be|like this How often does it happen to you that you thought something would be like this

pa nije bilo tako uopšte? well|was not|it|like that|at all but it wasn't like that at all?

Znači, čak se prevarimo i kada nemamo taj obrazac So|even|ourselves|deceive|and|when|we don't have|that|pattern So, we even deceive ourselves when we don't have that pattern

a naročito kada ljudi imaju and|especially|when|people|have especially when people have it.

te negativne obrasce razmišljanja those|negative|patterns|thinking these negative thought patterns

a non-stop se nalaze u iluziji and|||themselves|find|in|illusion are constantly in an illusion

svog negativnog razmišljanja your|negative|thinking of their negative thinking

o sebi, o svetu i about|myself|about|world|and about themselves, about the world and

o okruženju. about|environment about their surroundings.

Tako da je jako bitno, prva stvar So|that|is|very|important|first|thing So it is very important, the first thing

koju možete da uradite, a ovde se postavlja pitanje which|you can|to|do|and|here|reflexive pronoun|is asked|question that you can do, and here the question arises

šta možete vi da uradite protiv toga what|can|you|to|do|against|that what can you do about it

prva stvar koju možete da uradite je da first|thing|that|you can|to|do|is| the first thing you can do is to

krenete da lovite sebe you start|to|hunt|yourself start hunting yourself

da li vi sebe zafrkavate? do|question particle|you|yourselves|joke Are you kidding yourself?

Onda kažete sebi: "Ej, aman!" Then|you say|to yourself|Hey|come on Then you say to yourself: "Hey, come on!"

"Čemu takva negativna razmišljanja" What for|such|negative|thoughts "What is with such negative thinking"

"svakoga dana non-stop" every|day|| "every single day non-stop"

Hajde da uhvatite sebe kada razmišljate tako Let's|to|catch|yourself|when|you think|like that Come on, catch yourself when you think like that

i onda da se kao malo distsncirate od toga and|then|to|reflexive pronoun|like|a little|distance|from|that and then to kind of distance yourself from it

i da postavite sebi pitanje and|to|ask|yourself|question and to ask yourself a question

da li postoji neki primer kada nije bilo tako? (verb to be)|question particle|exists|some|example|when|(verb to be) not|was|like that is there any example when it wasn't like that?

Jel bila neka situacija kada nije bilo tako? Was|there|any|situation|when|not|was|like that Was there a situation when it wasn't like that?

Na osnovu kojih kriterijuma uopšte Based|on|which|criteria|at all Based on what criteria at all

donosiš taj zaključak da je tako? |that|conclusion|that|is|so do you draw that conclusion?

Na osnovu kojih kriterijuma procenjuješ to? Based|on|which|criteria|do you evaluate|that Based on what criteria do you assess that?

Postoje li neki argumenti koji govore There are|question particle|some|arguments|that|speak Are there any arguments that say

potpuno suprotno? completely|opposite the complete opposite?

I postoje li ljudi kojima And|there are|question particle|people|to whom And are there people who

koji su, ne znam, dobili otkaz, pa su našli posao? who|(they)|not|know|received|termination|so|(they)|found|job who, I don't know, got fired, and then found a job?

Ili koji su se razveli, pa su našli ljubav svog života? Or|who|(auxiliary verb)||divorced|and then|(auxiliary verb)|found|love|of their|life Or who got divorced, and then found the love of their life?

Znači, bilo šta ako generalizujete, So|anything|what|if|you generalize So, anything if you generalize,

ali postoji barem jedan muškarac na ovom svetu koji nije bezveze but|there is|at least|one|man|in|this|world|who|is not|pointless but there is at least one man in this world who is not useless

ili: da li postoji barem jedna ljubazna or|(particle for yes/no questions)|(question particle)|there is|at least|one|kind (feminine) or: is there at least one kind

osoba koja radi u HR-u? person|who|works|in|| a person who works in HR?

Znači, da postavite sebi pitanja So|to|ask|yourselves|questions So, ask yourself questions

koja vas teraju which|you|drive that push you

da razmislite malo dalje to|think|a little|further to think a little further

od toga u šta ste se zakopali from|that|in|what|you|reflexive pronoun|buried than what you have buried yourself in

a ako je to neko drugi, neko koga volite, and|if|is|that|someone|other|someone|whom|you love and if it is someone else, someone you love,

koga cenite i do koga vam je stalo, whom|you appreciate|and|to|whom|you|is|concerned someone you appreciate and care about,

i vi vidite da se zakopa u nekoj and|you|see|that|himself|buries|in|some and you see that they are digging themselves into some

grešci, da jednostavno ima grešku u razmišljanju koja error|that|simply|has|mistake|in|thinking|which mistake, that they simply have a flaw in their thinking that

ga sprečava da postigne svoj cilj, him|prevents|from|achieving|his|goal prevents them from achieving their goal,

postavite mu jedno od ovih pitanja: ask|him|one|of|these|questions Ask him one of these questions:

"Na osnovu čega si to procenio?" On|the basis|of what|you|that|assessed "What did you base that on?"

"Koje kriterijume si uzeo?" Which|criteria|you|taken "What criteria did you use?"

"Postoje li neki drugi primeri?" Are there|question particle|any|other|examples "Are there any other examples?"

"Da li možda ima barem jedan primer" Do|question particle|maybe|has|at least|one|example "Is there at least one example?"

"Suprotan od toga" i tako dalje Opposite|of|that|and|so|on "Opposite of that" and so on

da pokrenete samo razmišljanje. to|initiate|just|thinking to just start thinking.

Nemojte davati argumente Don't|give|arguments Do not provide arguments

Davanje argumenata će samo Giving|arguments|will|only Providing arguments will only

da naiđe na otpor to|encounters|on|resistance meet with resistance

nego postavljajte pitanja but|ask|questions but ask questions

jer pitanja pokreću na razmišljanje. because|questions|provoke|to|thinking because questions provoke thought.

A pokrenuti nekoga na razmišljanje veliki je blagoslov And|to inspire|someone|to|thought|great|is|blessing And to provoke someone to think is a great blessing

naročito ako ste to vi especially|if|you|that|you especially if it is you

ali i za druge ljude je to važno but|and|for|other|people|is|it|important but it is also important for other people.

naročito u kontaktu sa ljudima koje volite, do kojih vam je stalo especially|in|contact|with|people|whom|you love|to|whom|you|is|concerned especially in contact with the people you love, whom you care about

da ih pokrenete na razmišljanje, jer samo onaj ko to|them|motivate|to|thinking|because|only|one|who to get them to think, because only those who

ko razmišlja who|thinks think

može da promeni mišljenje. can|to|change|mind can change their mind.

Onaj ko je u otporu The one|who|is|in|resistance Those who are resistant

zato što ste vi rekli: "Nije tako, nego je ovako", because|that|you (plural)|you (plural)|said|It is not|like that|but|is|like this because you said: "It's not like that, it's like this"

ne, on ne razmišlja, on se samo brani. no|he|not|thinks|he|himself|only|defends no, he is not thinking, he is just defending himself.

Brani svoje mišljenje. Zato nemojte Defend|your|opinion|Therefore|don't Defending his opinion. So don't

argumentovati protiv, nego jednostavno pitajte. argue|against|but|simply|ask argue against it, just ask.

Osobu pitajte da li postoje neki argumenti The person|ask|if|question particle|there are|any|arguments Ask the person if there are any arguments

koji bi možda bili drugačiji. which|would|maybe|be|different which might be different.

Nadam se da vam je ovo bilo korisno I hope|reflexive pronoun|that|to you|is|this|was|useful I hope this was helpful to you.

i ako jeste, onda and|if|is|then and if it was, then

pritisnite like, press|like press like,

dajte mi jedan lajk give|me|one|like give me a like.

i pritisnite subscribe and|press|subscribe and press subscribe

i zvonce da vas and|bell|to|you and the bell to be

obavestimo kad god ima nešto novo we will inform you|whenever|there is|there is|something|new notified whenever there is something new

na našem kanalu on|our|channel on our channel

što može da doprinese what|can|to|contribute that can contribute

vašem životu, vašem uspehu i vašoj sreći. your|life|your|success|and|your|happiness in your life, your success, and your happiness.

Vidimo se! We see|each other See you!

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