5 načina na koje uništavate svoj ljubavni život 5 Möglichkeiten, wie Sie Ihr Liebesleben ruinieren 5 Ways You're Ruining Your Love Life

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U današnjem videu želim da vas

uputim u

najgore greške koje možete da napravite the worst mistakes you can make

u svojoj emotivnoj vezi. in his emotional relationship.

I kako u stvari, ako to radite,

je sigurno da ćete upropastiti tu you're sure to screw it up

vezu ako je uopšte imate. relationship if you have one at all.

Ako imate vezu, If you have a connection,

poslušajte ovo do kraja listen to this all the way through

jer na kraju imam i jedan bonus za vas because at the end I have a bonus for you

kako da spasete stvar, ako se nešto ||etwas retten|||| how to save the thing, if something happens

desi od ovoga što happens from what

je u stvari ogromna greška, is actually a huge mistake,

a ako nemate vezu, and if you don't have a relationship,

onda obavezno poslušajte then be sure to listen

šta je to što ne treba da radite what is it that you should not do

kada je bude bilo. when it will be.

Davati vam savete o tome šta da uradite Giving you advice on what to do

da veza bude bolja, je jako dobro. to make the relationship better is very good.

Ali mislim da prvo treba da počnem sa greškama. But I think I should start with the bugs first.

jer ljudi prave greške because people make mistakes

i ono što je interesantno, postoji and what is interesting, there is

jedan američki naučnik an American scientist

John Gottman

koji se bavi istraživanjima

ozbiljnim naučnim istraživanjem serious scientific research

o tome kako funkcioniše brak, about how marriage works

kako funkcioniše veza,

i šta je u stvari kvari. and what actually spoils it.

Oni imaju laboratorijske uslove |||Laborbedingungen

i u njih dovedu parove |||führen hin| and they bring couples to them

i prikače im neke kablove |und schließen Kabel an||| and attached some cables to them

i snimaju ih i onda and they record them even then

ih puste da razgovaraju tako o let them talk so o

običnim životnim stvarima. ordinary life things.

O vaspitanju dece, o ovome, o onome... |Erziehung der Kinder||||| About raising children, about this, about that...

Znači, o raznim stvarima, So, about various things,

i onda posle kada and then after when

ti ljudi odu, onda oni analiziraju to. those people go, then they analyze it.

I iz svih tih njegovih istraživanja, on je |||||Untersuchungen|| And from all that research of his, he is

izdvojio pet stvari singled out five things

koje najviše štete vezi, odnosno ||am meisten schaden|| which harm the relationship the most, that is

izdvojio je pet stvari koje, ako su prisutne u vezi, he singled out five things that, if present in a relationship,

sa ogromnom sigurnošću with enormous certainty

može da tvrdi, jer su njegova naučna istraživanja tako pokazala, can claim, because his scientific research has shown so,

da će ta veza ili brak that this relationship or marriage will

da se prekine. ||unterbrochen werden to stop.

Tako da, obratite obavezno pažnju na ovih pet stvari. So, be sure to pay attention to these five things.

Puno stvari nije dobro da radite, ali ovih pet stvari su ubistvene. |||||||||||tödlich There are a lot of things you shouldn't do, but these five things are killer.

Tako da, pod broj jedan, So, number one,

jako je važno da it is very important that

ne kritikujete partnera. you don't criticize your partner.

Da ne zvocate stalno. Don't ring all the time.

Mi žene imamo tendenciju da stalno We women have a tendency to constantly

nešto "žvaćemo", zvocamo, "žvaćemo", zvocamo"... |||etwas kauen|nörgeln we will "chew" something, we will make a sound, "we will chew", we will make a sound"...

ne znači da vi ne treba da kažete doesn't mean you shouldn't say

svom partneru ako vam nešto ne odgovara, to your partner if something is not right for you,

ali to stalno kritikovanje,

to stalno podbadanje ||ständiges Sticheln that constant nudge

to stalno zvocanje i that constant ringing and

na način koji jednostavno povređuje vašeg partnera, ||||verletzt|| in a way that simply hurts your partner,

nije dobra stvar. Zato što

to treba svakako izbegavati |||unbedingt vermeiden it should definitely be avoided

i ono što vam savetujem je da naučite kako da ||||empfehle ich||||| and what I advise you to do is to learn how to

kažete kad vam nešto ne odgovara you say when something doesn't suit you

a da vas vaš partner stvarno i čuje and that your partner can really hear you

a ne stalno da mu zvocate i da mu and not to constantly call him and give him

"drobite" zbog toga, jer to je stvarno "Crush" for it, because it's real

veliki problem naročito u ovim našim balkanskim uslovima |||||||Bedingungen a big problem, especially in our Balkan conditions

gde su žene naučene da |||gelernt haben| where women are taught to

trpe, ali u stvari ne trpe, nego stalno nešto gunđaju. ertragen|||||||||murren they suffer, but in fact they don't suffer, they constantly grumble about something.

Jednostavno, nisu naučene da kažu They are simply not taught to say

kako u stvari how in fact

treba da kažu muškarcu |||dem Mann they should tell the man

šta im ne odgovara.

I da to bude sa uvažavanjem i poštovanjem |||||mit Respekt|| And let it be done with appreciation and respect

na jedan miran način in a peaceful way

i to može da se nauči

može da se nauči, ali se ne uči u našim uslovima. it can be learned, but it is not learned in our conditions.

Ali, može da se nauči.

Druga stvar, druga velika greška Another thing, another big mistake

koja se u brakovima često dešava which often happens in marriages

a manje je do žena, više and it's less about women, more

je do muškaraca je to povlačenje kad postane nezgodno. is up to men it's a retreat when it gets awkward.

Vrlo često muškarci Very often men

i ne samo na balkanu, nego i and not only in the Balkans, but also

širom sveta se pokazalo, eto vidite weltweit||||| it has been shown all over the world, you see

dr John Gottman je to u stvari i stražio, ||||||||untersucht Dr. John Gottman actually guarded it,

imaju tu tendenciju da kada have a tendency to when

postane nezgodno, ne žele da pričaju nego se povuku. it becomes awkward, they don't want to talk, they withdraw.

Neće da pričaju o tome

povuku se, odu u kafanu, samo izađu i odu... they retire, go to a pub, just go out and leave...

i to je u stvari

isto jedan od pet početaka kraja jedne veze ||||Anfänge||| also one of the five beginnings of the end of a relationship

Jako je teško da u stvari It is very difficult to actually

ispravimo nešto ako ne razgovaramo. let's fix something if we don't talk.

Znači, važno je da ostanete tu, dragi moji muškarci So, it is important that you stay there, my dear men

i žene isto! Ako težite tome da and women too! If you aspire to yes

se zatvorite... Žene to rade na drugačiji način. shut up... Women do it in a different way.

One ne odu, ne povuku se ||||sich zurückziehen| They don't go away, they don't retreat

nego se povuku u sebe i kada ih muškarac pita: "Šta ti je?" rather, they withdraw into themselves and when a man asks them: "What's wrong with you?"

One kažu: "Ništa! Nije mi ništa!" They say: "Nothing! I don't care!"

A u stvari, to je

pasivna agresija i to u stvari Passive||||| passive aggression in fact

izjeda vašu ljubav zerstört|| eats your love

i kvari je, krnji je... and spoil it, truncate it...

Zato je jako važno da naučimo otvoreno da komuniciramo That is why it is very important that we learn to communicate openly

šta nam ne odgovara what doesn't suit us

i da možemo da komuniciramo and that we can communicate

sa uvažavanjem i poštovanjem sa našim with appreciation and respect with ours

partnerom

kako za muškarce, tako i za žene. both for men and women.

I to može da se nauči.

Jeste da nije lako, It's not easy,

ali nije lako ni tako živeti but it's not easy to live like that either

stalno nadurena |ständig beleidigt constantly puffy

ili bežati od nečega i or run away from something and

na kraju se razvoditi i ponovo se |||sich scheiden lassen||| eventually divorce and remarry

udavati i opet ne znati kako da hendluješ to ausgeben|||||||| getting married and again not knowing how to handle it

i opet praviti iste greške i opet se razvoditi... and make the same mistakes again and divorce again...

To je mnogo teže, tako da

bolje je naučiti kako, u stvari, to it is better to learn how, in fact, it

možemo da prevaziđemo. ||können überwinden we can overcome.

To je jako važno. A u svakom slučaju izbegavati makar ||||||||vermeiden zumindest| That is very important. And in any case avoid at least

to, ako ne znate kako da iskomunicirate, ||||||kommunizieren that, if you don't know how to communicate,

izbegavajte na taj način da komunicirate. avoid communicating that way.

Treća stvar koju želim da vam kažem koja je The third thing I want to tell you is what

stvarno velika greška i

pravi onako nepopravljivu štetu ||unwiederbringlichen| it causes irreparable damage

u ljubavi, u braku in love, in marriage

u vezi, a to je ponižavanje partnera. |||||Erniedrigung| in a relationship, which is humiliating the partner.

Čak je dovoljno da vam partner onako nešto govori, It is even enough for your partner to say something like that,

a vi prevrnete očima. ||die Augen verdrehen| and you roll your eyes.

Kao: "Oh, Bože... kakav idiot..." Like, "Oh my god...what an idiot..."

To je smrt za ljubav. It is death for love.

To je najgore nešto što možete da uradite za ljubav. Das||||||||| It's the worst thing you can do for love.

Da govorite loše o svom partneru To talk badly about your partner

da njega ponižavate

kada je tu prisutan, when he is there,

pred drugima, pred poznatima in front of others, in front of the famous

pred nepoznatima, svejedno. in front of strangers, anyway.

Jako je važno da se uzdržite od toga. It is very important that you refrain from it.

Ako imate takvu naviku If you have such a habit

pod hitno je menjajte! change it urgently!

Zato što je to izuzetno ružno Because it's extremely ugly

i nijedna ljubav ne može to da preživi. and no love can survive that.

Znači, ako imate tu naviku So, if you have that habit

kakav god vam je partner whatever your partner is

vi ste ga birali, you chose him

a ako ste vi takvi i imate naviku da to radite, and if you are like that and have a habit of doing it,

i dozvoljavate sebi da ponižavate svog partnera and you allow yourself to humiliate your partner

koga ste vi izabrali, who did you choose

onda će se to desiti i sa sledećim, then it will also happen with the following,

i sa sledećim, i sa sledećim....

Niko vam neće biti dobar. No one will be good to you.

Zato je važno da That's why it's important to

se uzdržavate od toga, da ne ponižavate nikad svog partnera. refrain from it, never to humiliate your partner.

Smatrajte da je on Consider that he is

vaš izbor, jer u stvari, your choice, because in fact,

šta najveću štetu tu pravi, what is the biggest damage there,

to očekivanje

da će neko biti savršen

da će nešto biti savršeno, that something will be perfect

da će naša veza biti savršena...

Ako nije savršena, onda ne valja ništa. If it's not perfect, then nothing is good.

To je jako štetno i u današnje vreme It is very harmful even today

mladi ljudi jako tendiraju ka tome young people tend very much towards it

ja vidim to kod svojih klijenata. I see it in my clients.

"Da bude savršen muškarac..." "To be a perfect man..."

"Da ona bude savršena..." "For her to be perfect..."

"Da sve bude savršeno..."

To je budalaština! ||Das ist Unsinn! That's bullshit!

Zato što to ne postoji Because it doesn't exist

da je neko skroz savršen that someone is completely perfect

Savršen je takav kakav jeste. It's perfect just the way it is.

Poenta u ljubavi i jeste da volite Der Sinn|||||| The point in love is to love

čoveka onakvog kakav on jeste,

ali pre svega, da volite sebe onakvu kakva vi jeste....

Jer vrlo često ja to kod mojih klijenata Because very often I do that with my clients

vidim kao primer. I see as an example.

Da njih nervira muškarac koji je sa njima

samo zato što one same sebe ne vole.

A on ih u stvari voli. And he actually loves them.

Ali one sebe ne vole, pa im se čini da je on idiot i kreten ||||||||||||||Idiot und Trottel But they don't like themselves, so it seems to them that he is an idiot and a jerk

zato što ne vidi u stvari šta njima sve fali

i kako on može da joj kaže da je voli

kad je ona u stvari bezveze...

jer ona ima "dva kilograma više"

i ima "malo veći nos"

i nema "dovoljno velika usta"

i "trepavice joj nisu dovoljno dugačke"... |Wimpern||||

Gospode Bože! Herr Gott!|Herr Gott!

Poradite na sebi! Arbeiten Sie an sich!||

Na ljubavi prema sebi, prvenstveno! ||||vor allem

Jer kada zavolite sebe, Because when you love yourself,

onda ćete moći then you will be able to

da odredite šta vam odgovara, šta vam ne odgovara to determine what suits you, what doesn't suit you

i kada izaberete partnera ||wählen Sie| and when you choose a partner

odabraćete ga prema sebi, ne da bude savršen, you will choose it according to you, not to be perfect,

ne da vi budete savršeni, nego da not that you be perfect, but yes

se lepo uklapate i da živite lep život zajedno you fit well together and live a beautiful life together

i onda ćete moći i da razumete da vas voli and then you will be able to understand that he loves you

ako vi volite sebe. Ako ne volite sebe, if you love yourself. If you don't love yourself,

onda nećete moći da shvatite da vas voli. then you won't be able to understand that he loves you.

I onda ćete stalno ponižavati sebe And then you will constantly humiliate yourself

i ponižavati njega. Ponižavajući partnera, |||Demütigend| and humiliate him. Humiliating the partner,

vi ponižavate, u stvari, sebe. you are, in fact, humiliating yourself.

Jer to je, zaista smrt. ||||Tod Because that is really death.

Ne samo da su naučna istraživanja pokazala Not only that scientific research has shown

nego je i život pokazao but life has shown it

da ponižavanjem svog partnera, vi uništavate ljubav. that by humiliating your partner, you destroy love.

Bukvalno je onako smrskavate. |||Zerquetschen es buchstäblich. You literally crush it like that.

I četvrti veliki problem za našu ljubav i za And the fourth big problem for our love and for

vezu i odnose, connection and relationships,

je u stvari, ona rutina. is, in fact, that routine.

Ulazak u rutinu. Eintritt in Routine|| Getting into a routine.

Puno mladih ljudi danas ima jako puno obaveza A lot of young people today have a lot of responsibilities

toliko su se opteretili: karijera, deca |||überlastet|| they burdened themselves so much: career, children

kuća, drž' ovamo, drž' onamo... |||Halt| house, hold here, hold there...

deca na sekcije, voze se na sport, na children to sections, they drive to sports, to

umetnost, na ovo, na ono... Kunst, dies, das|||| art, on this, on that...

Znači, rastrgnuti su između svih So, they are torn between everyone

obaveza koje su sebi nametnuli, ||||aufgebürdet haben the obligations they have imposed on themselves,

i onda bukvalno ||und dann buchstäblich and then literally

njihov razgovor se svodi samo na to their conversation boils down to just that

ko će šta da uradi, kad, kakav im je kalendar who will do what, when, what is their calendar

"šta radiš ti, šta radim ja..."

"ko vozi danas, ko vozi u subotu"...

"ko vozi u nedelju"...

"ko će da uradi ovo, ko će da uradi ono"....

I potpuno su zaboravili u stvari And they completely forgot in fact

da je ljubav ono što ih je spojilo. that love is what brought them together.

I o ljubavi više niti razgovaraju, niti za nju više imaju vremena... And they don't even talk about love anymore, nor do they have time for it anymore...

Nekako su to stavili sa strane, kao: "Neka, to ćemo sutra..." They kind of put it aside, like, "Let's do it tomorrow..."

Ali je jako važno da stvarno povratite But it is very important that you actually vomit

tu emociju koju ste imali za svog partnera that emotion you had for your partner

da odvojite vreme da s njim pričate, to take the time to talk to him,

da pričate o svojoj budućnosti, o svojim snovima, to talk about your future, about your dreams,

o onome što osećate, što volite, about what you feel, what you love,

ne mora to da bude ne znam koje vreme... it doesn't have to be I don't know what time...

Znam da je teško i da nemate vremena, ali I know it's hard and you don't have time, but

kada imate vremena, stavite razgovor sa svojim partnerom when you have time, have a conversation with your partner

u kalendar ako treba. Što da ne?

Stavite nedeljom Put it on Sundays

ujutru pijemo kafu zajedno morgens|||

tad možda deca spavaju then maybe the children are sleeping

i možemo da popričamo and we can talk

o nama, da se malo bavimo jedno drugim, da about us, to deal with each other a little, yes

pitam partnera: "Kako si?"

"Kako ti je na poslu?"

"Šta se dešava u tvom životu?" "What is going on in your life?"

Da malo budemo nekako partneri. Let's be partners for a bit.

I da polako vratite tu And slowly bring it back

iskru ljubavi u svoju the spark of love into your own

vezu, jer bez toga će da propadne. Sigurno. relationship, because without it it will fail. For sure.

Sigurno će da propadne. |||wird scheitern

Nauka je pokazala da je to jedan od Science has shown that it is one of the

velikih faktora za propadanje brakova i veza. |||Scheitern||| major factors for the collapse of marriages and relationships.

I poslednja, peta, greška |die letzte|| And the last, fifth, mistake

koju možete da napravite je egoizam. that you can make is selfishness.

A to znači da ste fokusirani na

sebe i da, na primer,

se samo jedan partner razvija ||||sich entwickelt only one partner develops

radi ono što ga unapređuje, do what improves it,

a drugi partner za to vreme and the other partner during that time

mora da se pobrine za sve ostalo, u kući, u muss|||sich kümmern um|||||| he has to take care of everything else, in the house, in

domaćinstvu, za decu... za sve ostalo. household, for children... for everything else.

To zaista nije fer. That's really not fair.

Osim toga što je to u stvari... Except that it's actually...

nekako se vraćamo i na prethodnu tačku, |||||vorherige|Punkt somehow we return to the previous point,

... ponižavajuće za partnera. demütigend für den Partner|| ... humiliating for the partner.

Treba da postoji neka vrsta jednakosti među vama. There should be some kind of equality between you.

U redu je da kažemo ovako: It's okay to say this:

"Ja ću sada da se bavim decom godinu, dve, tri..." "I will now deal with children for a year, two, three..."

"Ti za to vreme možeš da razvijaš karijeru". "You can develop your career during that time".

"Ali se ti posle baviš decom, a ja ću da razvijam karijeru". "But you deal with the children afterwards, and I will develop my career".

"Jer i ja sam sposobna i ja mogu da radim nešto". "Because I am also capable and I can do something".

"I mogu da se dokazujem na različite načine". "And I can prove myself in different ways".

Jako je važno da se oboje razvijate. It is very important that you both develop.

Postoji ona izreka There is that saying

iza svakog uspešnog muškarca, stoji pametna i uspešna žena. |||||||erfolgreiche| behind every successful man, there is a smart and successful woman.

Ali vrlo često je ta žena u senci |||||||im Schatten But very often that woman is in the shadows

i to nije dobro.

To nije dobro, zato što takvi brakovi, dokazano je, This is not good, because such marriages, it has been proven,

propadaju, zato što to nezadovoljstvo scheitern||||Unzufriedenheit they fail, because that dissatisfaction

i ta nejednakost, taj egoizam koji ||Ungleichheit||| and that inequality, that egoism that

postoji vrlo često kod there is very often code

i vrlo često je, na žalost, to kod muškaraca and very often, unfortunately, it is with men

da je njima dozvoljeno, da oni mogu, a da žena |||erlaubt ist|||||| that they are allowed, that they can, and that a woman

mora da se pobrine za sve ostalo, samo ne he has to take care of everything else, just not

za sebe i da ako se žena pobrine za sebe, for himself and that if a woman takes care of herself,

kod nas na Balkanu, ima i to, da ako se ona pobrine za sebe, onda je ona egoistična here in the Balkans, there is also the fact that if she takes care of herself, then she is egoistic

ako se bilo šta pobrine za sebe. if anything it takes care of itself.

Ona mora da se brine za svakoga She has to take care of everyone

svi mogu da budu egoistični, samo ona ne sme. ||||||||darf nicht

I zato je jako važno da mi žene naučimo And that is why it is very important for us women to learn

da se pobrinemo za sebe. to take care of ourselves.

Da se pobrinemo prvo za sebe

pa onda, ne na račun naše porodice, well then, not at the expense of our family,

ne na račun našeg partnera not at the expense of our partner

naprotiv! Im Gegenteil! on the contrary!

Nego da se pobrinemo za sebe zbog njih. |||kümmern uns|||| Let's take care of ourselves for them.

Kako bismo njima mogle da pružimo |||||um zu bieten How we could provide them

sve ono što imamo unutra all that we have inside

jer ako smo unutra razočarane, ||||enttäuscht because if we are disappointed inside,

ponižene, povređene, gedemütigt, verletzt|verletzte humiliated, hurt,

onda je to ono što imamo da pružimo njima. |||||||anbieten| then that is what we have to offer them.

Onda ćemo stalno biti tako.... Then we will always be like this...

bićemo nervozne, bićemo neprijatne we will be nervous, we will be uncomfortable

prema deci, prema partneru, ||zu, gegenüber, für|

i ono što je u nama, stalno će izlaziti napolje. and what is inside us will constantly come out.

Zato je jako važno da vodimo računa ||||||darauf achten That is why it is very important that we take care

da se egoizam ne uvuče i da ne dozvolimo svom ||||einschleichen||||| that egoism does not creep in and that we do not allow our own

partneru da se ponaša egoistično partner to behave egoistically

u našoj vezi, jer time će pući naša veza. in our relationship, because that will break our relationship.

I ode sve... Znači, jako je važno And everything goes... So, it's very important

da naučimo kako u stvari to learn how in fact

se održava ljubav. love is maintained.

I ja mogu od srca da vam preporučim And I can wholeheartedly recommend it to you

naš online program

zove se Power LOVE Design

u kome vas podučavam puno veoma korisnih stvari |||unterrichte|||| in which I teach you many very useful things

praktičnih, koje su se meni pokazale u praksi, practical, which have proven to me in practice,

da održim ljubav sa Milanom to maintain my love with Milan

i naročito i za one koji uopšte nemaju and especially for those who have none at all

vezu sada trenutno connection right now

kako da u stvari rade na sebi how to actually work on themselves

kako bi postali osoba to become a person

s kojom će neko rado da provodi vreme with whom someone will be happy to spend time

i da u vezi, u stvari,

budete osoba koja kreira tu vezu. |||schafft|| be the person who creates that connection.

Jer dobre veze Because good connections

ljubavi koje su čvrste i stabilne loves that are solid and stable

nisu slučajne. Tu ljudi rade nešto they are not accidental. People are doing something there

kako treba. I u ovoj našoj edukaciji properly. And in this education of ours

mi ćemo vas podučavati šta je nama pomoglo |||wir werden lehren|||| we will teach you what has helped us

i šta smo mi radili

i nakon već nekoliko krugova ove ||||einigen Runden| and after several rounds of this one

edukacije, znamo da je mnogim našim klijentima education, we know that many of our clients

to bilo top i da su unapredili svoje brakove ||spitze||||verbessert haben|| it was good that they improved their marriages

i da su uspeli da nađu partnera |||||einen Partner finden|

i da sa njim kreiraju jednu fenomenalnu vezu. and to create a phenomenal relationship with him.

Zato vas pozivam, dole imate link, That's why I invite you, below is the link,

kliknete i da se prvo informišete o tome

šta se sve dešava na toj edukaciji |||passiert|||

a onda i da se prijavite za tu edukaciju.

A sada, kao što sam vam obećala, ||||||versprochen habe And now, as I promised you,

John Gottman je prezentirao šta zapravo treba uraditi John Gottman presented what actually needs to be done

kako bi se, kada jednom pogrešimo, so that once we make a mistake,

iskupili i popravili u vezi, wiedergutgemacht|||| redeemed and mended in relationship,

i rekao je sledeće: and said the following:

1:5 treba da bude odnos. 1:5 should be the ratio.

Znači, ako ste napravili neku glupost, So if you did something stupid,

jer ljudi greše, because people make mistakes,

svi grešimo i mi grešimo, we all make mistakes and we make mistakes,

nekad i naš muškarac pogreši, ali i mi grešimo. sometimes our man makes mistakes, but we make mistakes too.

Ako smo i mi nešto pogrešili,

onda je dobro da uradimo pet dobrih stvari then it's good to do five good things

u nizu kako bismo to popravili. in a row to fix it.

Ne jednu, pa da kažemo: "E dobro, uradila sam ti jednu stvar..." Not one, so let's say: "Okay, I did one thing for you..."

Ne, pet dobrih stvari! 1:5

Ne znam... doručak u krevet, možda neki mali poklon... I don't know... breakfast in bed, maybe a small gift...

možda neko malo iznenađenje maybe a little surprise

neka masaža... nešto lepo uradimo let's have a massage... let's do something nice

za našeg partnera i to pet u nizu.

Smislimo. Lepo, budite kreativni. Let's figure it out. Nice, be creative.

Sedite i zapišite pet stvari Sit down and write down five things

koje ćete uraditi da popravite glupost koju ste napravili. what are you going to do to fix the stupid thing you did.

Jer to će vašem odnosu Denn||||Ihrer Beziehung

dati malo čari i inače ||etwas Charme verleihen|| give some charm and otherwise

bih vam dala za savet I would give you some advice

koji je možda najbolji koji možete da dobijete, |||||||bekommen könnt which may be the best you can get,

a to je da uvek uprete pogled u ono što je lepo and that is to always look at what is beautiful

i dobro i divno u vašoj vezi and good and wonderful in your relationship

i ono što je divno na vašem partneru. and what's wonderful about your partner.

Da ne gledate samo ono što vam se ne sviđa, So that you don't only watch what you don't like,

nego da se fokusirate na ono što vam se sviđa

i zbog čega ste se u njega zaljubili and why you fell in love with him

i da ako nekad ostavi čarape gde ne treba and if he ever leaves his socks where they shouldn't be

vi se ipak setite zašto ste se u njega zaljubili |||erinnert euch|||||| you still remember why you fell in love with him

i onda u tom duhu ||||in diesem Sinne and then in that spirit

u tom načinu u toj energiji

zaljubljene žene, možete da mu kažete women in love, you can tell him

možda da vam smeta nešto što je uradio, a ne |||stört|||||| maybe something he did bothers you and he doesn't

u zvocanju... |im Klang von in sound...

Ali najvažnija stvar je

stvarno da budete zahvalni za sve ono dobro

što vaša veza vama daje

i da vidite sve one divne stvari

koje iz nje proizlaze |||daraus resultieren which emerge from it

jer ako ne vidite sve divne stvari because if you don't see all the wonderful things

koje iz te veze proizlaze which arise from that connection

onda je niste ni zaslužili then you didn't even deserve it

onda će ona da propadne i to je to. then it will fail and that's it.

A možda će da propadne i sledeća i sledeća... ako vi And maybe the next one and the next one will fail... if you

ne radite na sebi. Zato uradite nešto don't work on yourself. So do something

a najbolje što možete da uradite je

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