3 vežbe za više SAMOPOUZDANJA 3 Übungen für mehr VERTRAUEN 3 exercises for more CONFIDENCE 3 個練習增強信心

Dragi moji,

imam pitanje za vas:

da li vi pripadate grupi ljudi do you belong to a group of people

kojima je jako neprijatno kad ih neko hvali who are very uncomfortable when someone praises them

a ne daj Bože da bi za nešto sami sebe pohvalili. and God forbid that they would praise themselves for something.

Ako pripadate toj grupi ljudi i osećate If you belong to that group of people and feel

da nemate dovoljno samopouzdanja, that you don't have enough self-confidence,

onda će vam ovaj video biti super koristan then this video will be super useful for you

jer do kraja ću vam dati tri zanimljive because by the end I will give you three interesting ones

vežbe koje će vam pomoći exercises to help you

da svoju vrednost sagledate to see your worth

i da možete da je iznesete pred drugima. and that you can present it in front of others.

Pogledajte obavezno video do kraja i ako vam se dopadne, Be sure to watch the video until the end and if you like it,

onda ga lajkujte.

Ja sam Slavica. Ovo je moj YouTube kanal

na kom uvek možete da nađete divne

korisne savete kako da

kreirate život i posao koje ćete da obožavate.

Šta se u stvari dešava sa ljudima?

Najviše sa nama ženama; nekako kao da smo tako Mostly with us women; somehow it's like we are like that

vaspitane, jako nam je teško da nas neko hvali. well-mannered, it is very difficult for us to have someone praise us.

I samopouzdanje je za žene često

veći problem nego za muškarce. a bigger problem than for men.

Ali svejedno, ovi saveti pomažu svakome. But still, these tips help everyone.

Pod broj jedan, zato, bih ja volela da razmislite Under number one, therefore, I would like you to think

koje su tri vaše what three are yours

najbolje osobine? best features?

Zaista razmislite o tome. Ja znam da je jako Really think about it. I know it's strong

teško jer se mi često fokusiramo na negativno. difficult because we often focus on the negative.

i znamo tačno šta nam fali, šta nam nedostaje... and we know exactly what we lack, what we lack...

šta nije dobro kod nas, ali kad nas neko pita what is wrong with us, but when someone asks us

"Koje su tvoje najbolje osobine", ljudi to jako teško definišu. "What are your best qualities", people find it very difficult to define.

A to je zato što podrazumevaju sve svoje dobre stvari. And that's because they take all their good things for granted.

Znači, sve ono u čemu smo super, pa kao: "Dobro, pa podrazumeva se" So, everything that we are great at, so like: "Okay, so it goes without saying"

"Ja sam takav..."

Razmislite o tome šta kažu drugi o vama Think about what others say about you

Šta hvale drugi kod vas? Šta je, na primer, to što vaši prijatelji What do others praise about you? What, for example, is that your friends

kažu: Jao ti si super u ovome ili u onome"... they say: Oh, you're great at this or that"...

Popišite sve te stvari. Uzmite sveščicu i List all those things. Take a candle and

napišite sve što se sećate da vas drugi hvale. write down everything you remember others praising you for.

I ja bih jako volela da izaberete tri I would also really like you to choose three

vaše naj.. naj.. naj... your most.. most.. most...

najjače strane, najbolje osobine strengths, best qualities

zbog kojih vas drugi hvale i u kojima ste tako for which others praise you and in which you are so

dobri, da ih vi i ne primećujete. so good that you don't even notice them.

Jer važno je da postanete toga svesni. Because it is important that you become aware of it.

Evo, na primer, meni kažu ljudi da sam jako strukturirana Here, for example, people tell me that I am very structured

Da imam smisla da od kompleksnih stvari To make sense of complex things

napravim jednostavno, make it simple

da jednostavno objasnim stvari. Vi mi stalno pišete i kažete: to simply explain things. You keep writing to me and saying:

"Jao, konačno razumem neke stvari i sve mi je ovo jako jednostavno" "Ouch, I finally understand some things and this is all very simple to me"

Takođe mi kažu da sam strpljiva, mada se ja They also tell me that I am patient, although I am

ne osećam uvek tako, ali znam i don't always feel that way, but i know

suštinski da sam strpljiva i da imam strpljenja essentially that I am patient and that I have patience

da istrajem u nekim stvarima i istrajna sam takođe. to persevere in some things and I am also persistent.

Veoma!

I nije mi to problem da kažem.

Strukturirana,

da sam strpljiva i da sam istrajna

i još puno toga. and much more.

Volela bih da i vi I wish you would too

sagledate šta ste i da vam bude lako look at what you are and make it easy for you

da to kažete, znate. Da vam sasvim bude lako

Da kada priča neko o vama i Yes, when someone talks about you and

kada kaže nešto od toga, da kažete "Hvala" when he says something like that, to say "thank you"

da se ne izvinjavate zbog toga, jer obično, ja kažem don't apologize for it, because usually, I say

nekad nekoj mojoj prijateljici ili mojoj polaznici once to a friend of mine or a student of mine

kažem nešto lepo, pohvalim je nešto I say something nice, I praise her something

i stvarno to mislim, a onda ona krene da se opravdava, kao... and I really mean it, and then she starts making excuses, like...

"Niiije, pa, eto..." NE! Samo kažeš "Niiije, well, there..." NO! You're just saying

"Hvala!" Hvala.

Jer to ostavlja utisak Because it leaves an impression

da razumete svoju vrednost, da to understand your worth, yes

je u redu, da ste vredni i da znate is fine, that you are worthy and that you know

da ste vredni.

i da vas nije sramota zbog toga - naprotiv!

Da ste ok sa tim i da je to u redu. That you are ok with it and that it is fine.

Znači, to je onako odraz samopouzdanja, kažete hvala So, it's a reflection of self-confidence, you say thank you

Druga stvar koju bih volela Another thing I would like

da naučite je da naučite da se predstavite. to learn is to learn to introduce yourself.

to će sigurno da pomogne that will surely help

i doprinese vašem samopouzdanju, ako malo uvežebate and it contributes to your self-confidence, if you practice a little

šta ćete reći. what will you say

Na primer,

kada ste negde i neko vas pita ko ste, šta ste... when you are somewhere and someone asks you who you are, what you are...

kad imate priliku da kažete when you have a chance to say

možda na nekim poslovnim razgovorima, maybe at some business talks,

sastancima i tako dalje, da možda meetings and so on, yes maybe

da možda kažete nešto o sebi što je zanimljivo to maybe say something about yourself that is interesting

što budi interesovanje drugih ljudi i which arouses the interest of other people and

nešto sa čim se vi osećate dobro, a tačno je o vama something that you feel good about and that is true about you

Da ne kažete samo: "Ja sam Svetlana", na primer i: So that you don't just say: "I'm Svetlana", for example:

"Ja radim u banci". "I work in a bank".

Šta ljudi onda zamisle? Kao sedite na šalteru i šta ja znam... What do people think then? Like sitting at the counter and what do I know...

Umesto toga možete da kažete: Dobar dan, ja sam Svetlana

i ja sam zaposlena u banci I also work in a bank

a brinem se da and I worry that

ljudi koji dolaze u banku, svi naši klijenti people who come to the bank, all our clients

dobiju proizvode i budu get products and be

usluženi prema svojim životnim situacijama. served according to their life situations.

Tačno tako kako njima odgovara. Just the way it suits them.

Ili na primer često doživim da mi Or, for example, I often experience that we

polaznice kažu: ja sam majka i nezaposlena sam. participants say: I am a mother and I am unemployed.

Ja onda pitam: "Dobro, koliko imate dece?" A one kažu:

Dvoje, troje, četvoro nekad. Two, three, four sometimes.

Ja bih pre sastavila neku rečenicu i rekla bih I would rather put together a sentence and say

Ja se bavim time da jedno petočlano I deal with the fact that a five-member

ili šestočlano domaćinstvo

funkcioniše i za to koristim

puno senzitivnosti koja je potrebna za tako nešto a lot of sensitivity that is needed for such a thing

ali takođe i dozu strogosti but also a touch of rigor

da zadržim okvir za to keep the frame for

sve članove porodice i da sve funkcioniše kako treba. all family members and that everything works as it should.

Ej, to je posao! Veliki posao! Hey, it's work! Big business!

I ljudima to može da deluje sasvim drugačije nego da kažete And it can seem quite different to people than you say

"Ja sam majka i nezaposlena sam", a u stvari radite jako puno toga. "I am a mother and I am unemployed", when in fact you are doing a lot of things.

Tako da, delujete samopouzdanije So, you seem more confident

i delujete kao da je to and you act like it is

vama u redu što radite. you're fine with what you're doing.

Ako kažete: "Ja sam majka i nezaposlena sam", kao da If you say: "I'm a mother and I'm unemployed", like yes

se osećate loše sa tim, što je šteta. you feel bad about it, which is a shame.

Znači, samopouzdanje

je stvar malo i vežbe, znači, osmislite it's a matter of a little practice, so come up with it

svoju rečenicu, kako ćete se predstaviti i your sentence, how you will introduce yourself and

ponovite nekoliko puta sami za sebe, dok vam ne bude repeat a few times to yourself, until you get used to it

onako kako vama odgovara i onda kad vas as it suits you and when you

neko nekad pita, negde, da se predstavite someone sometimes asks, somewhere, to introduce yourself

vi onda lepo kažete tu svoju rečenicu then you say your sentence beautifully

samouvereno, odmereno, mirno confident, measured, calm

onda probudite tuđe interesovanje i sasvim drugačije then arouse other people's interest and quite differently

delujete.

I još jedna stvar koja može And one more thing that can

da vam puno, puno pomogne da vaše samopouzdanje to help you a lot, a lot to your self-confidence

ostane na visokom nivou. To je treća stvar remain at a high level. That's the third thing

a to je

da uzmete istu onu svesku gde ste pisali sve svoje to take the same notebook where you wrote all your things

dobre osobine

i gde ste možda zapisali i ovu rečenicu

kako ćete se predstaviti i zapišete deset stvari how you will introduce yourself and write down ten things

u vašem životu koje ste in your life that you are

postigli i koje su stvarno pohvalne. achieved and which are really commendable.

Vama se možda podrazumevaju, ali stvarno su pohvalne. They may be obvious to you, but they are really commendable.

I navedite sve što vam pada na pamet, sve što And name everything you can think of, everything

biste možda za nekog drugog rekli: "WOW"

"Završio je to, uradio je to, ima to"... Pa na primer

možete da kažete: Ja sam završila you can say: I'm done

školu sa school with

diplomirala sam sa desetkom, na primer, ja to mogu da kažem za sebe I graduated with a ten, for example, I can say that for myself

Ja sam diplomirala na PMF-u sa desetkom. I graduated from PMF with a ten.

Ili možete da kažete, na primer, za sebe:

"Ja sam majka troje dece" "I am a mother of three children"

Ili možete da kažete na primer

da ste, ne znam if you are, I don't know

bili u inostranstvu sami i were abroad alone and

snašli ste se ili ste bili u nekom stranom gradu have you found your way or have you been to a foreign city

i snašli ste se sami u nekom and you found yourself in someone

nepoznatom okruženju. To je fantastično!

Neki ljudi se uopšte ne usuđuju Some people don't dare at all

nikad nigde da odu zato što se plaše da se neće snaći they never go anywhere because they are afraid they won't make it a vi ste to možda doživeli.

Ili možda možete da kažete:

"Ja sam naučila da sviram neki instrument" ili "I learned to play an instrument" or

jezik. Znam engleski, na primer.

Nema veze, čak i ako ga ne znate dobro, možda ga razumete

Pa ne razume to svako. To je pohvalno. Well, not everyone understands that. That is commendable.

Napišite sve o sebi što je pohvalno i onda izaberite Write everything about yourself that is commendable and then choose

deset najvažnijih stvari, tako da uvek imate u vidu ten most important things, so you always have in mind

kada vam treba samopouzdanje, kada vam

stanje pada, kada negde treba da the state of falling, when somewhere you need to

odete gde biste voleli da imate samopouzdanja, pročitajte

ko ste u stvari. Uzmite tu sveščicu

i pročitajte ko ste, šta ste sve postigli i koliko

ste u stvari fantastični. I onda

ponovite svoju rečenicu

i možda dodajte tri svoje najbolje osobine unutra and maybe add three of your best traits in there

i vaše samopouzdanje će već and your confidence will already

da bude na višem nivou. to be at a higher level.

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kreirate život i posao koje ćete da volite.

Možete mi napisati svoju rečenicu dole

u komentar ili napišite

svoje tri najbolje osobine, znači

pišite mi, kako vam ide, šta vam ovo znači

ili ako ste to već uradili

posle kad se setite ovog videa,

napišite mi kakva su iskustva bila

kada ste izgovorili svoju rečenicu when you said your sentence

i kako ste se osećali tada. Ima li to nekog and how did you feel then. Is there anyone?

efekta na vas?

Sve vas pozdravljam i vidimo se sledećeg četvrtka. I greet you all and see you next Thursday.