The Rise Of Weak Men (2)
They give us this trophy that my dad has till today, a last place trophy.
And he puts it right there and he says, you know why we have this trophy?
To remind you how bad you lost.
It's almost like, experience the pain, son.
And I'm like, dude, throw that thing away.
He says, no, you lost by 104 points.
Look at the psyche of a father.
A mother would say, why would you do that to him?
That hurts his feelings.
My dad's like, that's exactly what he needs.
The pain of a loss.
Makes a man come back and improve.
Makes him stay up late at night practicing while everybody else is sleeping.
Makes this guy say, one day I'm going to prove to the world that I'm a winner.
So, going back to you.
There's nothing wrong with competing.
There's nothing wrong with losing.
As long as you keep showing up and competing, eventually, you're going to get your shot.
But you're better off being a capitalist than being a socialist.
Because being a socialist is just not attractive.
Final thoughts here.
Look, as you're going through the process from being a boy to a man, or from a man to
a man's man, many times you're by yourself.
Say you don't have a father figure.
Say you don't have a strong male role model.
You don't know who to talk to.
You're trying to please everybody.
Your mom's telling you, but that's not the way to behave.
And you don't have another man to bounce off the idea to think if it's a good idea or not.
You're like, okay, I'm going to please my mom.
I'm going to please my teacher, who's a woman.
I'm going to please my girl, who's a female.
I'm going to please my girlfriend's mom.
You're trying to please everybody, and you're becoming less and less and less of a man.
And you're in the car by yourself saying, man, I'm losing my identity.
I don't even know who I am.
Then, you lean towards making bad decisions.
Look, take your time out away from everybody and sit down and say, what do I stand for?
What are your values and principles?
What do you stand for as a man?
What do you want to do with your life?
What kind of a leader do you want to be in your life?
You!
Who do you want to be?
Not what everybody's trying to force you to become.
Who do you want to be?
Then go solve for that, and when you do that, be prepared for some people to not like it.
That includes a lot of women in your life.
Makes sense.
And then all of a sudden, you're going to be like, oh my God, I'm finding more men like
myself out there.
Fantastic!
They're out there.
They're everywhere.
You can find them.
Just like yourself.
You're not the only one that's thinking what you're thinking right now.
But you want to be a man's man.
The world gives you more opportunities when you do so.
We are living in a very, very competitive environment.
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and I got two things I want to share with you.
One, I made another video titled, 20 Rules for Young Men.
If you've never watched it, you must watch this one.
And we have a quiz for you to find out what you're driven by.
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Take care everybody.
Bye bye.
