Sprečite svađe u porodici: provedite praznike BEZ STRESA
Prevent|arguments||the family|spend|the holidays|without|stress-free
Verhindern Sie Familienstreitigkeiten: Verbringen Sie die Feiertage STRESSFREI
Prevent family quarrels: spend the holidays STRESS FREE
Previene peleas familiares: pasa las vacaciones LIBRE DE ESTRÉS
Предотвратите семейные ссоры: проведите праздники БЕЗ СТРЕССА
防止家庭爭吵:輕鬆度假
Dragi moji, dobrodošli!
Dear|dear|welcome
Ja sam Slavica i ovo je moj YouTube kanal.
||I am Slavica||this|||YouTube channel|channel
Danas ću da pričam o tome kako da
|will||talk||that||
Today I'm going to talk about how to
izbegnete svađu i stres za praznike.
avoid|argument||stress||the holidays
avoid arguments and stress for the holidays.
Ne znam da li ste znali,
I don't know if you knew
da je u Britaniji
|||Britain
prvi ponedeljak nakon Božića i Nove godine
|||Christmas|||
the first Monday after Christmas and New Year
圣诞节和新年后的第一个星期一
nazvan “Divorce day”, odnosno,
named|"Divorce day"|day|that is
called "Divorce day", that is,
被称为“离婚日”,
za vas koji ne govorite engleski, “Dan za razvod”.
||||||||divorce
for those of you who don't speak English, "Divorce Day".
对于不会说英语的人,“离婚日”
Tokom praznika porodice provode
|||spend
During the holidays, families spend
mnogo više vremena zajedno, nego što su navikle,
|||||||used to
much more time together than they are used to,
我们花更多时间在一起,比她们平时习惯的要多得多。
mnogo više od uobičajenog.
|||usual
much more than usual.
远超平常。
I imaju neke rutine koje
|||routines|
And they have some routines that
而且有一些日常习惯。
funkionišu inače tokom godine,
function normally during|||
normally function during the year,
通常一年中运作正常,
ali za praznike nemaju.
but they don't have any for holidays.
但节假日不开放.
Ja želim da vam dam par ideja
||||give||
I want to give you some ideas
我想给你们一些建议
kako da izbegnete stres
how to avoid stress
i kako da izbegnete svađe
and how to avoid arguments
i da stvarno pretvorite praznike u predivne dane,
||really|turn into|||wonderful|
and to really turn the holidays into wonderful days,
onako kako se i nadate da će da budu,
just||||hope for||||
as you hope they will be,
就像你们希望的那样,
a ne da posle praznika
and not after the holidays
而不是假期之后
ne volite da se sećate toga jer je bilo strašno.
|you|||remember|||||terrible
you don't like to remember it because it was terrible.
你们不喜欢回忆那段可怕的经历。
U mnogim porodicama dolazi do svađe.
||families|||
In many families, quarrels occur.
在许多家庭中经常发生争吵。
Zato bih ja volela da vas pozovem da jednostavno skupite svoju porodicu
||||||invite|||gather||
That is why I would like to invite you to simply gather your family
因此我想邀请您简单地召集您的家人
i da napravite jedan mali dogovor oko praznika.
||make|||agreement||
and make a small deal around the holidays.
并就假期做个小协议。
Mnogo mnogo možete sebi da uštedite
|||||save yourself a lot
You can save yourself a lot
如果你听我的话,你可以为自己省下很多钱
nervoze i loše atmosfere
nervousness|||bad atmosphere
nervousness and bad atmosphere
避免紧张和不良氛围
tokom praznika ako me poslušate.
||||listen to me
during the holidays if you listen to me.
在节日期间
Okupite porodicu i kažite ovako:
Gather||||like this
Gather the family and say this:
带着家人说:
šta sve ima da se uradi pre praznika
what is there to do before the holidays
在节日期间有哪些工作要做
i šta sve ima da se uradi tokom praznika
and what there is to do during the holidays
在节日期间有哪些工作要做
i onda pitajte ko bi voleo nešto od toga da preuzme.
||ask|||||||to|take over
and then ask who would like to take some of it.
然后问谁想要接管其中的一些。
Šta je to što možete da predate nekome,
||||||submit|to someone
What is it that you can hand over to someone,
您能交给别人什么,
da urade deca,
for children to do,
孩子们做什么。
da uradi suprug…
to do husband...
Znači, šta bi ko voleo i mogao da preuzme.
So, what would anyone like and be able to take over.
意思是,每个人都想做,也能做到。
Jer vrlo često se dešava
Because it happens very often
因为经常发生
da sve ostane na ženi.
||remains||the woman
to leave everything up to the woman.
一切都留给女人。
One kažu: “Ma nema veze, ja ću to.
||but||problem|||
They say: "It doesn't matter, I'll do it."
有人说:"没关系,我来处理。"
Hoću da spremim ovo, hoću da spremim ono,
||||I want|||
I want to prepare this, I want to prepare that,
我想准备这个,想准备那个,
da očistim, da uredim, da sredim,
|clean||organize||
to clean, to arrange, to arrange,
清理、整理、整顿,
da ja sebe sredim i tako dalje
|||fix|||
to arrange myself and so on
让自己冷静下来然后继续下去
i na kraju upadnu toliko u stres
|||they fall|||
and end up getting so stressed
最后会变得如此紧张
da postanu napete i nervozne
|become|tense||nervous
to become tense and nervous
变得紧张和烦躁
i unesu tu nervozu i napetost u celu porodicu.
|they bring in||nervousness||tension||the whole|
and bring that nervousness and tension into the whole family.
他们会给整个家庭带来紧张和紧张感。
Vrlo često
Very often
很多时候
deca i suprug uopšte i ne vide šta vi sve imate da uradite.
||||||see||||||
children and husband do not even see what you have to do.
孩子和配偶根本看不到你可以做的事情。
Oni i ne znaju.
Zato je jako važno da znate da delegirate za praznike.
|||||you know||delegate tasks||
That's why it's so important to know how to delegate for the holidays.
因此,您必须知道在假日期间授权任务非常重要。
Znači, mora da se kupi to i to, mora da se spremi to i to,
So, you have to buy this and that, you have to prepare this and that,
也就是说,必须购买这个和那个,必须准备这个和那个,
mora da se uradi to i to, bla bla bla,
|||||||blah blah blah|bla|bla
this and that must be done, blah blah blah,
必须做这个和那个,等等等等。
da bi nam praznici svima bili divni,
|||holidays|||wonderful
to make the holidays wonderful for all of us,
希望我们的节日是美好的,
ti uradi to, ti uradi to, ti uradi to, ti uradi to…
you do it, you do it, you do it, you do it…
你去做,你去做,你去做,你去做...
Date neke rokove, dogovorite se
date||deadlines|agree|
Give some deadlines, come to an agreement
设定一些截止日期,进行商量
kad ko može šta da uradi
when who can do what
i pomirite se takođe sa tim da možda nešto neće ni biti urađeno.
|reconcile|||||||||||done
and accept also that something may not even get done.
也要和可能有些事没有完成和解.
Šta ima veze? Važno je da vi kao porodica i
What does it matter? It is important that you as a family and
有什么关系?重要的是你们作为一个家庭
imate dobru atmosferu, a ne da sve bude perfektno i cakum pakum.
||atmosphere||||||perfect||perfectly|hunky-dory
you have a good atmosphere, and not for everything to be perfect and cakum pakum.
要有良好氛围,而不是一切完美无缺和不舍得放松.
Znači, dogovorite se.
So, come to an agreement.
所以请达成协议。
A onda, kada neko nešto preuzme i uradi
And then, when someone takes over and does something
然后,当有人接过并完成某事时
jako je važno da i pre praznika
it is very important that even before the holidays
在节日期间也非常重要
i tokom praznika
and during holidays
在节日期间
pokažete da cenite svačiji angažman.
you show||appreciate|everyone's|engagement
show that you value everyone's involvement.
表现出你珍视每个人的投入。
Znači, svako u porodici
也就是说,家庭中的每个人
da kaže “hvala” onom drugom
|||to that|
to say "thank you" to the other
说“谢谢”给另一个
koji je nešto uradio.
who did something.
他做了一些事。
Ako je mama spremila ručak,
|||prepared|
If mom made lunch,
如果妈妈做了午饭,
onda joj svi kažu: “Hvala, divno je!”
|||||wonderful|
then everyone tells her: "Thank you, it's wonderful!"
那么大家都会说:"谢谢,太棒了!"
Ako je, ne znam, dete iznelo đubre,
|||||took out|trash
If, I don't know, a child took out the garbage,
如果是,我不知道,孩子拿出垃圾,
“Hvala! Divno je što si to uradio”.
"Thank you! It's great that you did that."
“谢谢!你所做的太棒了”。
Ako je otac išao u nabavku,
||father|||shopping trip
If the father went shopping,
如果父亲去采购,
“Hvala ti, divno je što si to doneo!”
"Thank you, it's great that you brought that!"
“谢谢你,你把这件事带来真是太棒了!
Znači, da se zahvaljujete jedni drugima
|||thank each other|to each other|to each other
It means that you thank each other
这意味着彼此感谢
za sve ono što neko za nekog uradi,
||||||someone|
for everything someone does for someone,
为对方所做的一切
jer to će da podigne atmosferu i učini
||||lift|||make it
because that will raise the atmosphere and do
因为这将改善氛围并让
da se osećate dobro. Jako je to važno.
||feel|||||
to feel good. It is very important.
保持身体健康很重要。
Znači, zahvalnost inače
|Gratitude, generally.|
So, thanks by the way
感激让我们意识到生活是多么美好
čini da razumemo koliko nam je život divan
||understand|||||wonderful
makes us understand how wonderful our life is
所以,感谢是很重要的
i kada nam se ljudi zahvaljuju koje volimo i za koje puno radimo,
|||||thank us|||||||
and when people thank us whom we love and work hard for,
当我们所爱的人感谢我们并且我们为他们付出了很多时,
onda smo spremniji da uradimo još više.
||more prepared||||
then we are more willing to do even more.
我们就更愿意做更多事情。
Ako se zahvalite onima oko vas što su vam pomogli
||thank|||||||
If you thank those around you for helping you
如果你感谢周围帮助过你的人
i ne kažete: “Pa šta me briga, pa i ja radim puno, pa nema veze,
||you say||||"care"||||||||
and you don't say: "Well, what do I care, I also work a lot, so it doesn't matter,
不要说:“那又怎样,我也很努力工作,没关系,
neka oni to rade,
let them do it
让他们做,
"podrazumeva se da nešto i oni urade"
It means||||||
"it goes without saying that they do something too"
“当然他们也要做些什么"
Nemojte to da radite!
do not|||
Don't do that!
Jednostavno, kažite “hvala” za sve.
I videćete, oni će želeti još više da preuzmu
|you will see|||||||take over
And you'll see, they'll want to take on even more
i sve više i više stvari će da rade sa radošću,
||||||||||with joy
and more and more things will work with joy,
zato što to neko vidi i neko ceni
because someone sees it and someone appreciates it
i to je jako važno.
and that is very important.
Takođe, šta vam još predlažem je,
||||"I suggest"|
Also, what else I suggest you is,
da kao porodica sednete i razmislite o tome
|||sit down||think about it||
to sit down as a family and think about it
šta vi stvarno želite tokom praznika.
what do you really want during the holidays.
Znači, šta su očekivanja svakog člana porodice.
|||expectations||member|
So, what are the expectations of each family member.
Mi uglavnom provedemo praznike tako što kažemo:
||spend||||
We generally spend the holidays saying:
“Jao, pa trebalo bi…"
"Oh no"|||
"Oh, well, I should..."
moramo da uradimo ovo…
we have to do this…
trebalo bi da pozovemo u goste te i te ljude...
|||invite over||||||
we should invite such and such people...
da pozovemo u goste dedu i babu…
|we invite|||grandpa||grandma
let's invite grandparents...
moramo da idemo kod ujne i kod tetke…
||||aunt by marriage|||aunt
we have to go to uncle and aunt's house...
"moramo ovo, moramo ono...."
"we have to do this, we have to do that..."
Sedite i zapišite sve što “treba” i što “mora”
sit||write down||||||
Sit down and write down everything you "need" and "must"
i razmislite vi za vašu porodicu da date sebi dozvolu
||||your|||||permission
and think for your family to give yourself permission
da u ovim praznicima, ove godine,
|||holidays||
that in these holidays, this year,
radite samo ono što vam se radi.
||||||to do
just do what you're told to do.
Nema “moram” i “treba”. Zašto? Pa ko vas tera?
||||||||forces
There is no "must" and "need". Why? So who is forcing you?
Znači, ako vam se ne ide
So, if you don't feel like it
kod babe i dede,
|grandma||grandpa
at grandma and grandpa's
oprostiće vam oni,
they will forgive||
they will forgive you
ali ostanite zajedno i razmislite šta ćete raditi zajedno.
but stay together and think about what you will do together.
Ali, ako vam se ide kod babe i dede, onda obavezno idite.
||||||||||definitely|"go"
But if you feel like visiting your grandparents, then definitely go.
Razmislite šta je ono što cela porodica voli,
|||||whole||
Think about what the whole family likes,
u čemu uživate,
||you enjoy
what do you enjoy
jer je to izvor stresa kad neko radi nešto na silu.
|||source|||||||force
because it is a source of stress when someone does something by force.
Ili kad svi idete tamo na silu samo zato što “treba” ili “mora”.
Or when you all go there by force just because you "should" or "must".
I onda su svi nervozni, onda atmosfera postane loša
|||||||becomes|bad
And then everyone is nervous, then the atmosphere becomes bad
i to je odlično tlo za svađu.
|||excellent|||
and it is excellent ground for argument.
Što bi bilo šteta da se svađate za praznike…
|||a shame|||argue||
Which would be a shame to fight for the holidays…
Jer svi mi zamišljamo praznik idilično
||||holiday|idyllically
Because we all imagine the holiday as idyllic
“konačno imamo vremena za porodicu”,
"we finally have time for family",
“možemo da se provedemo, biće nam lepo, biće ovo, biće ono… “
"we can have a good time, it will be nice, it will be this, it will be that..."
a onda, statistilke kažu,
||the statistics|
and then, statisticians say,
da duplo više razvodnih parnica
|||divorce|lawsuits
that twice as many divorce cases
započne nakon praznika, nego inače.
starts||||
starts after the holidays, than usual.
I još ono što vam savetujem je,
|||||I advise|
And what else I advise you is,
pošto vi sigurno znate šta je u vašoj porodici,
|||||||your|
since you surely know what is in your family,
koja tema u vašoj porodici
|topic|||
what topic in your family
je stalni izvor konflikta.
|permanent||of conflict
is a constant source of conflict.
Razmislite o tome,
Think about it,
kad sedite zajedno i pravite sastanak za planiranje praznika,
||||make||||
when you sit together and have a holiday planning meeting,
razmislite o tome
šta su teme o kojima uopšte ne želite da pričate za praznike.
||||which|||||talk||
what are the topics you don't want to talk about at all for the holidays.
Šta je ono zbog čega znate da ćete se posvađati?
|||||||||argue
What is it that you know you're going to fight about?
Najbolje bi bilo da ne pričate o tome.
It would be best if you didn't talk about it.
Dogovorite se, ok, to je tema i kad neko počne tu temu,
||ok|||||||||topic
Agree, ok, that's a topic and when someone starts that topic,
svako od ostalih članova porodice sme da kaže:
|||members||||
each of the other family members may say:
Ne pričamo o tome! Ne danas!
|we talk||||
We don't talk about it! Not today!
Pričaćemo posle praznika. Ne sada.
we will talk||||
We'll talk after the holidays. Not now.
Tako da izbegnete
So you avoid
ono za šta znate sigurno da će da bude izvor konflikta,
what you know for sure will be a source of conflict,
tako da se dogovorite da to ne radite
so you agree not to do it
nipošto, nikako.
|no way
by no means, not at all.
I ako ste gledali moju seriju
|||||series
postavljanja ciljeva,
setting|goals
goal setting,
onda bi bilo divno da možda,
u tom vašem dogovoru, razmislite
|||agreement|
in that deal of yours, think about it
šta vam je cilj za praznike.
|||goal||
what is your goal for the holidays
Da kažete, vidimo stvarno našu porodicu
||||our|
You say, we see our real family
kako za praznike provodimo
|||we spend
how we spend the holidays
divno vreme zajedno, smejući se, radeći
|||laughing||working
wonderful time together, laughing, working
ono što volimo, uživajući u zajedničkim trenucima
|||enjoying|||moments
what we love, enjoying the moments together
i da onda napravite jedan plan.
and then make a plan.
Svaki cilj zahteva akcioni plan da bi bio sproveden u delo,
||||||||carried out||
Every goal requires an action plan to be implemented,
da bi se ostvario.
|||realized
to come true.
Zato napravite plan,
So make a plan,
šta ćete raditi prvi dan,
what will you do on your first day
šta ćete raditi drugi dan,
šta ćete raditi treći dan,
|||third|
dogovorite se svi zajedno.
come to an agreement all together.
Nemojte očekivati da drugi možda znaju,
|expect||||
Don't expect that others may know,
da deca znaju, da muž zna šta vi hoćete,
||||||||want
that the children know, that the husband knows what you want,
nego sedite i kažite,
rather sit and say,
“šta biste voleli da radimo prvi dan, šta biste voleli da radimo drugi dan”,
||||||||would you|||||
"what would you like us to do on the first day, what would you like us to do on the second day",
šta biste voleli da radimo na Badnji dan, na Božić…
||||||Christmas Eve|||Christmas
Hajde da napravimo plan, da znamo
|||||we know
Let's make a plan, let's know
i da se svi sa tim složimo, kako niko ne bi išao ovako :(
||||||agree||no one||||
and let's all agree with that, so that no one goes like this :(
nego da budete svi raspoloženi,
||be||
than to be in good spirits,
da vam bude lepo.
to be nice to you.
Dozvolite pauze,
allow|
Allow breaks,
dozvolite sebi pauzu, dozvolite članovima porodice
allow||||to the members|
allow yourself a break, allow family members
da možda izađu popodne i idu sa društvom na kafu,
|||afternoon||||friends||
to maybe go out in the afternoon and go for coffee with friends,
izađite i vi sa drugaricom na kafu.
||||friend||
go out for coffee with your friend.
Kažite im: “Ja hoću 1. januara popodne, na primer,
||||January|||
Tell them: "I want on the afternoon of January 1, for example,
da idem sa svojom drugaricom na kafu i celo popodne ću biti odsutna.
||||||||||||absent
to go with my friend for coffee and I will be away all afternoon.
To je moja pauza
That's my break
i ja hoću taj mir za sebe,
and I want that peace for myself,
vi izvolite radite tada šta vama odgovara.
|||||you|suits
you please do what suits you then.
Dogovorite se tako.
Agree so.
Tako da svako ima svoj prostor i svako ima ono što želi.
|||||space||||||
So everyone has their own space and everyone has what they want.
Naravno, potrebno je malo kompromisa,
||||compromise
ako neko baš voli da ide u goste kod babe i dede
if someone really likes to visit their grandparents
i samo ste vi jedan član koji ne voli,
|||||member|||
and you are the only member who does not like,
onda možda možete da kažete:
then maybe you can say:
“Ok, vi idite kod babe i dede, a ja ću taj dan da iskoristim za svoju pauzu
|||||||||||||use|||
"Ok, you go to grandma and grandpa, and I will use that day for my break
da uradim nešto sasvim drugo”.
||||different
to do something completely different”.
Ali dozvolite članu koji ne želi da radi nešto sa vama da ne radi,
||member|||||||||||
But let a member who doesn't want to do something with you not do it,
da je to sasvim ok, nek radi nešto drugo.
|||||let|||
that's perfectly fine, let him do something else.
Ali kada se nađete ponovo, bićete srećni,
|||||you will be|
But when you meet again, you'll be happy,
bićete zadovoljni imaćete divnu atmosferu.
you will be||you will have|a wonderful|
you will be satisfied, you will have a wonderful atmosphere.
Eto, dragi moji, iskoristite praznike
here|||make use of|
There, my dears, take advantage of the holidays
da vežbate sve što ste naučili u "Tutorijalu o ciljevima"
|||||learned||Tutorial||goals
to practice everything you learned in the "Goals Tutorial"
i da stvarno primenite to
|||apply|
and to actually apply it
i da imate fantastične praznike.
|||fantastic|
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||we inform||upcoming|
to inform you about the following videos,
jer vas čeka puno dobrih stvari, svakog četvrtka ovde kod nas,
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because a lot of good things await you, every Thursday here at our place,
a ponekad nešto i između četvrtaka,
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and sometimes something between Thursdays,
a takođe bih volela da podelite ovo sa svojim prijateljima
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and I would also like you to share this with your friends
sa rodbinom, sa svim ljudima za koje mislite da će
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with relatives, with all the people you think will
ovi saveti kako da izbegnu svađu i stres za praznike
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these tips to avoid arguments and stress for the holidays
stvarno da pomognu.
really help.
Znači, kliknite i šerujte
|click||share
So, click and spread
i lajkujte ovaj video
|like||
i tako učinite da ja znam da vam
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and so make me know that you
ovo znači i da treba da nastavim sa ovim da radim,
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this also means that I should continue to do this,
jer sam jako srećna ako vama znači.
because I'm very happy if you mean it.
Pišite mi dole
Write me below
još neke ideje, dajte mi neke svoje ideje
some more ideas, give me some of your ideas
kako vi učinite neke svoje praznike lepim,
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how do you make some of your holidays beautiful,
dajte da drugi ljudi pročitaju
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let other people read it
i da jedni drugima pomognemo da nam praznici budu lepi.
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and to help each other make our holidays beautiful.
Ja vam od srca želim divne praznike,
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da se lepo provedete,
|||have fun
have a nice time,
da mi pišete kako vam je bilo
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jeste li šta isprobali, kako je uspelo
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have you tried anything, how did it work
i šta još imate od ideja.
and what other ideas do you have.
A mi se vidimo odmah posle Nove godine.
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And we'll see each other right after the New Year.