TED, Monica Lewinsky: The price of shame (2)

Monica Lewinsky: The price of shame (2)

Trust me, compassionate comments help abate the negativity. We can also counter act the culture by supporting organizations that deal with these kinds of issues, like the Tyler Clementi Foundation in the U.S.,In the U.K., there's Anti-Bullying Pro, and in Australia, there's Project Rockit.

19:51 We talk a lot about our right to freedom of expression, but we need to talk more about our responsibility to freedom of expression. We all want to be heard, but let's acknowledge the difference between speaking up with intention and speaking up for attention.The Internet is the superhighway for the id, but online, showing empathy to others benefits us all and helps create a safer and better world. We need to communicate online with compassion, consume news with compassion, and click with compassion. Just imagine walking a mile in someone else's headline. I'd like to end on a personal note. In the past nine months, the question I've been asked the most is why. Why now? Why was I sticking my head above the parapet? You can read between the lines in those questions, and the answer has nothing to do with politics. The top note answer was and is because it's time:time to stop tip-toeing around my past; time to stop living a life of opprobrium; and time to take back my narrative.

21:17 It's also not just about saving myself. Anyone who is suffering from shame and public humiliation needs to know one thing:You can survive it.I know it's hard.It may not be painless, quick or easy, but you can insist on a different ending to your story. Have compassion for yourself. We all deserve compassion, and to live both online and off in a more compassionate world.

21:54 Thank you for listening.

21:57 (Applause)

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Trust me, compassionate comments help abate the negativity. |||||reduce||pessimism Croyez-moi, les commentaires compatissants aident à atténuer la négativité. We can also counter act the culture by supporting organizations that deal with these kinds of issues, like the Tyler Clementi Foundation in the U.S.,In the U.K., there’s Anti-Bullying Pro, and in Australia, there’s Project Rockit. |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||Project Rockit Nous pouvons également contrecarrer la culture en soutenant des organisations qui s'occupent de ce genre de problèmes, comme la Tyler Clementi Foundation aux États-Unis, Anti-Bullying Pro au Royaume-Uni et Project Rockit en Australie. Мы также можем противодействовать культуре, поддерживая организации, которые занимаются подобными проблемами, такие как Фонд Тайлера Клементи в США, в Великобритании есть Anti-Bullying Pro, а в Австралии есть Project Rockit.

19:51 We talk a lot about our right to freedom of expression, but we need to talk more about our responsibility to freedom of expression. 19:51 Мы много говорим о нашем праве на свободу слова, но нам нужно больше говорить о нашей ответственности перед свободой слова. We all want to be heard, but let’s acknowledge the difference between speaking up with intention and speaking up for attention.The Internet is the superhighway for the id, but online, showing empathy to others benefits us all and helps create a safer and better world. ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||ego||||||||||||||||| Nous voulons tous être entendus, mais reconnaissons la différence entre parler avec intention et parler pour attirer l'attention. Internet est l'autoroute de l'id, mais en ligne, faire preuve d'empathie envers les autres est bénéfique pour nous tous et contribue à créer un monde plus sûr et meilleur. We need to communicate online with compassion, consume news with compassion, and click with compassion. Just imagine walking a mile in someone else’s headline. Imaginez que vous marchiez un kilomètre dans les pas de quelqu'un d'autre. I’d like to end on a personal note. In the past nine months, the question I’ve been asked the most is why. Why now? Why was I sticking my head above the parapet? ||||||||safety barrier Pourquoi ai-je passé la tête au-dessus du parapet ? You can read between the lines in those questions, and the answer has nothing to do with politics. The top note answer was and is because it’s time:time to stop tip-toeing around my past; time to stop living a life of opprobrium; and time to take back my narrative. ||||||||||||||tiptoeing|||||||||||shame and disgrace||||||| La réponse la plus importante était et est toujours parce qu'il est temps: il est temps d'arrêter de tourner autour de mon passé; il est temps d'arrêter de vivre une vie d'opprobre; et le temps de reprendre mon récit.

21:17 It’s also not just about saving myself. Anyone who is suffering from shame and public humiliation needs to know one thing:You can survive it.I know it’s hard.It may not be painless, quick or easy, but you can insist on a different ending to your story. ||||||||||||||||||||||||||without pain|||||||demand||||||| Toute personne souffrant de honte et d'humiliation publique doit savoir une chose : vous pouvez y survivre. Je sais que c'est difficile. Ce n'est peut-être pas sans douleur, rapide ou facile, mais vous pouvez insister pour que votre histoire se termine différemment. Have compassion for yourself. We all deserve compassion, and to live both online and off in a more compassionate world. We all deserve compassion, and to live both online and off in a more compassionate world.

21:54 Thank you for listening.

21:57 (Applause)