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eat pray love by elizabeth gilbert full, Eat Pray Love ch 30-2

Eat Pray Love ch 30-2

In the end, though, I was most guided by something my friend Sheryl said to me that very night at that very party, when she found me hiding in the bathroom of our friend's fancy loft, shaking in fear, splashing water on my face.

Sheryl didn't know then what was going on in my marriage. Nobody did. And I didn't tell her that night. All I could say was, “I don't know what to do.” I remember her taking me by the shoulders and looking me in the eye with a calm smile and saying simply, “Tell the truth, tell the truth, tell the truth.” So that's what I tried to do. Getting out of a marriage is rough, though, and not just for the legal/ financial complications or the massive lifestyle upheaval. (As my friend Deborah once advised me wisely: “Nobody ever died from splitting up furniture.”) It's the emotional recoil that kills you, the shock of stepping off the track of a conventional lifestyle and losing all the embracing comforts that keep so many people on that track forever. To create a family with a spouse is one of the most fundamental ways a person can find continuity and meaning in American (or any) society. I rediscover this truth every time I go to a big reunion of my mother's family in Minnesota and I see how everyone is held so reassuringly in their positions over the years. First you are a child, then you are a teenager, then you are a young married person, then you are a parent, then you are retired, then you are a grandparent—at every stage you know who you are, you know what your duty is and you know where to sit at the reunion. You sit with the other children, or teenagers, or young parents, or retirees. Until at last you are sitting with the ninetyyear-olds in the shade, watching over your progeny with satisfaction. Who are you? No problem—you're the person who created all this. The satisfaction of this knowledge is immediate, and moreover, it's universally recognized. How many people have I heard claim their children as the greatest accomplishment and comfort of their lives? It's the thing they can always lean on during a metaphysical crisis, or a moment of doubt about their relevancy—If I have done nothing else in this life, then at least I have raised my children well. But what if, either by choice or by reluctant necessity, you end up not participating in this comforting cycle of family and continuity? What if you step out? Where do you sit at the reunion? How do you mark time's passage without the fear that you've just frittered away your time on earth without being relevant? You'll need to find another purpose, another measure by which to judge whether or not you have been a successful human being. I love children, but what if I don't have any? What kind of person does that make me? Virginia Woolf wrote, “Across the broad continent of a woman's life falls the shadow of a sword.” On one side of that sword, she said, there lies convention and tradition and order, where “all is correct.” But on the other side of that sword, if you're crazy enough to cross it and choose a life that does not follow convention, “all is confusion. Nothing follows a regular course. ”Her argument was that the crossing of the shadow of that sword may bring a far more interesting existence to a woman, but you can bet it will also be more perilous.

I'm lucky that at least I have my writing. This is something people can understand. Ah, she left her marriage in order to preserve her art. That's sort of true, though not completely so. A lot of writers have families. Toni Morrison, just to name an example, didn't let the raising of her son stop her from winning a little trinket we call the Nobel Prize. But Toni Morrison made her own path, and I must make mine. The Bhagavad Gita—that ancient Indian Yogic text—says that it is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else's life with perfection. So now I have started living my own life. Imperfect and clumsy as it may look, it is resembling me now, thoroughly. Anyway, I bring all this up only to admit that—in comparison to my sister's existence, to her home and to her good marriage and to her children—I'm looking pretty unstable these days. I don't even have an address, and that's kind of a crime against normality at this ripe old age of thirty-four. Even at this very moment, all my belongings are stored in Catherine's home and she's given me a temporary bedroom on the top floor of her house (which we call “The Maiden Aunt's Quarters,” as it includes a garret window through which I can stare out at the moors while dressed in my old wedding gown, grieving my lost youth). Catherine seems to be fine with this arrangement, and it's certainly convenient for me, but I'm wary of the danger that if I drift about this world randomly for too long, I may someday become The Family Flake. Or it may have already happened. Last summer, my five-year-old niece had a little friend over to my sister's house to play. I asked the child when her birthday was. She told me it was January 25. “Uh-oh!” I said. “You're an Aquarius! I've dated enough Aquarians to know that they are trouble.” Both the five-year-olds looked at me with bewilderment and a bit of fearful uncertainty. I had a sudden horrifying image of the woman I might become if I'm not careful: Crazy Aunt Liz. The divorcée in the muumuu with the dyed orange hair who doesn't eat dairy but smokes menthols, who's always just coming back from her astrology cruise or breaking up with her aroma-therapist boyfriend, who reads the Tarot cards of kindergarteners and says things like, “Bring Aunty Liz another wine cooler, baby, and I'll let you wear my mood ring. .” Eventually I may have to become a more solid citizen again, I'm aware of this. But not yet . please. Not just yet.

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Eat Pray Love ch 30-2 Eat Pray Love, Kapitel 30-2 Ешь, молись, люби, гл. 30-2

In the end, though, I was most guided by something my friend Sheryl said to me that very night at that very party, when she found me hiding in the bathroom of our friend’s fancy loft, shaking in fear, splashing water on my face.

Sheryl didn’t know then what was going on in my marriage. Nobody did. And I didn’t tell her that night. All I could say was, “I don’t know what to do.” I remember her taking me by the shoulders and looking me in the eye with a calm smile and saying simply, “Tell the truth, tell the truth, tell the truth.” So that’s what I tried to do. Getting out of a marriage is rough, though, and not just for the legal/ financial complications or the massive lifestyle upheaval. ||||||schwierig|||||||||||||| (As my friend Deborah once advised me wisely: “Nobody ever died from splitting up furniture.”) It’s the emotional recoil that kills you, the shock of stepping off the track of a conventional lifestyle and losing all the embracing comforts that keep so many people on that track forever. ||||||||||||||||||emotionaler Rückzug|||||||||||||||||||umarmenden|||||||||| ||||||||||||||||||duygusal geri çekilme||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| To create a family with a spouse is one of the most fundamental ways a person can find continuity and meaning in American (or any) society. ||||||Ehepartner||||||||||||Kontinuität||||||| I rediscover this truth every time I go to a big reunion of my mother’s family in Minnesota and I see how everyone is held so reassuringly in their positions over the years. |wiederentdecke|||||||||||||||||||||||||beruhigend|||||| First you are a child, then you are a teenager, then you are a young married person, then you are a parent, then you are retired, then you are a grandparent—at every stage you know who you are, you know what your duty is and you know where to sit at the reunion. You sit with the other children, or teenagers, or young parents, or retirees. Until at last you are sitting with the ninetyyear-olds in the shade, watching over your progeny with satisfaction. Who are you? No problem—you’re the person who created all this. The satisfaction of this knowledge is immediate, and moreover, it’s universally recognized. How many people have I heard claim their children as the greatest accomplishment and comfort of their lives? It’s the thing they can always lean on during a metaphysical crisis, or a moment of doubt about their relevancy—If I have done nothing else in this life, then at least I have raised my children well. |||||||||||||||||||Relevanz|||||||||||||||||| |||||||||||||||||||önemlilikleri|||||||||||||||||| But what if, either by choice or by reluctant necessity, you end up not participating in this comforting cycle of family and continuity? ||||||||widerwillig|||||||||||||| What if you step out? Where do you sit at the reunion? How do you mark time’s passage without the fear that you’ve just frittered away your time on earth without being relevant? Wie|||||Verlauf||der|||||vergeudet|||||||| ||||||||||||heba etmiş||||||||önemli You’ll need to find another purpose, another measure by which to judge whether or not you have been a successful human being. |||||||Maßstab|||||||||||||| I love children, but what if I don’t have any? What kind of person does that make me? Virginia Woolf wrote, “Across the broad continent of a woman’s life falls the shadow of a sword.” On one side of that sword, she said, there lies convention and tradition and order, where “all is correct.” But on the other side of that sword, if you’re crazy enough to cross it and choose a life that does not follow convention, “all is confusion. |||||weiten|||||||||||Schwert|||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Nothing follows a regular course. ”Her argument was that the crossing of the shadow of that sword may bring a far more interesting existence to a woman, but you can bet it will also be more perilous. |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||gefährlicher |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||tehlikeli

I’m lucky that at least I have my writing. This is something people can understand. Ah, she left her marriage in order to preserve her art. ||||||||bewahren|| That’s sort of true, though not completely so. A lot of writers have families. Toni Morrison, just to name an example, didn’t let the raising of her son stop her from winning a little trinket we call the Nobel Prize. |||||||ließ nicht|||||||||||||Schmuckstück||||| ||||||||||||||||||||takı||||| But Toni Morrison made her own path, and I must make mine. The Bhagavad Gita—that ancient Indian Yogic text—says that it is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else’s life with perfection. |||||||||||||||||||||||Nachahmung|||||| So now I have started living my own life. Imperfect and clumsy as it may look, it is resembling me now, thoroughly. ||ungeschickt|||||||ähnlich||| |||||||||benziyor|||tamamen Anyway, I bring all this up only to admit that—in comparison to my sister’s existence, to her home and to her good marriage and to her children—I’m looking pretty unstable these days. I don’t even have an address, and that’s kind of a crime against normality at this ripe old age of thirty-four. Even at this very moment, all my belongings are stored in Catherine’s home and she’s given me a temporary bedroom on the top floor of her house (which we call “The Maiden Aunt’s Quarters,” as it includes a garret window through which I can stare out at the moors while dressed in my old wedding gown, grieving my lost youth). |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||Jungferntante|||||||Dachbodenfenster|||||||||||||||||Brautkleid|||| ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||çatı katı||||||||||açık alanlar||||||||||| Catherine seems to be fine with this arrangement, and it’s certainly convenient for me, but I’m wary of the danger that if I drift about this world randomly for too long, I may someday become The Family Flake. |||||||Vereinbarung|||sicherlich||||||vorsichtig|||||||umherirren||||willkürlich|||||||||| ||||||||||||||||dikkatli|||||||||||||||||||||aile tembelliği Or it may have already happened. Last summer, my five-year-old niece had a little friend over to my sister’s house to play. I asked the child when her birthday was. She told me it was January 25. “Uh-oh!” I said. “You’re an Aquarius! I’ve dated enough Aquarians to know that they are trouble.” Both the five-year-olds looked at me with bewilderment and a bit of fearful uncertainty. ||||||||||||||||||||||||ängstlicher| I had a sudden horrifying image of the woman I might become if I’m not careful: Crazy Aunt Liz. The divorcée in the muumuu with the dyed orange hair who doesn’t eat dairy but smokes menthols, who’s always just coming back from her astrology cruise or breaking up with her aroma-therapist boyfriend, who reads the Tarot cards of kindergarteners and says things like, “Bring Aunty Liz another wine cooler, baby, and I’ll let you wear my mood ring. |geschiedene Frau|||Muumuu|||gefärbten||||||Milchprodukte|||||||||||||||||||||||||||Kindergartenkindern|||||||||Wein|Weinmischget||||||||Stimmungsring| ||||loose dress||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| .” Eventually I may have to become a more solid citizen again, I’m aware of this. But not yet . please. Not just yet. Noch||