Have you failed today? Criticism, Failure, and "Kicking The Cat" ||failed today|this day|Negative feedback|Failure||blaming others||Scapegoat Haben Sie heute versagt? Kritik, Versagen und "Katzbuckeln" Have you failed today? Criticism, Failure, and "Kicking The Cat" ¿Has fracasado hoy? Crítica, fracaso y "patadas al gato" Avez-vous échoué aujourd'hui ? Critique, échec et "coup de pied au chat". 批評、失敗、そして "Kicking The Cat"。 Já falhou hoje? Crítica, fracasso e "pontapé no gato" Вы потерпели неудачу сегодня? Критика, неудача и "пинание кошки" Have you failed today? Criticism, Failure, and "Kicking The Cat"

相信 每 一个 人 多多少少 都 有 过 被 批评 的 经历 ， 原本 的 舒畅 心情 在 被 批评 之后 瞬间 变得 沮丧 烦闷 ， 之后 不是 在 心里 唾骂 就是 找个 “ 出气筒 ” 发泄 一下 。 believe||||more or less|all|||passive marker|criticism||experience|originally||comfortable|mood||passive marker|criticism|after|in an instant|became|frustrated and depressed|frustration|||||cursing|||punching bag|venting anger| I believe that everyone has more or less experience of being criticized. After being criticized, the original comfortable mood instantly becomes depressed and upset. After that, he either scolds in his heart or finds a "punching bag" to vent. 누구나 비판을 받은 경험이 있을 것입니다. 비판을 받으면 원래 편안했던 기분은 순식간에 좌절감과 지루함으로 바뀌고, 상대방에게 침을 뱉거나 분노를 표출할 '샌드백'을 찾게 됩니다. 但是 这样 真的 能 解决问题 吗 ？ but||||solve the problem| But can this really solve the problem? 这样 的 方式 会 产生 什么样 的 影响 呢 ？ ||||produce|||| What kind of impact will this approach have?

在生活中 我们 很 容易 碰到 这样 的 事情 ， 老板 买 的 股票 跌 了 ， 懊恼 气愤 ， 正巧 主管 进来 汇报工作 ， 老板 劈头盖脸 骂 了 主管 一顿 ， 主管 憋 了 一肚子火 回去 ， 看到 助理 整理 资料 也 不由分说 挑刺 批评 ， 助理 也 不 高兴 了 ， 因为 一点 小事 就 跟 其他人 发脾气 …… 你 也许 就是 这个 坏 情绪 循环 中一环 ， 而 这 就是 心理学 中 的 踢 猫 效应 。 In life||||encounter|||||buy||stocks|fall|past tense marker|frustration|angry|just happened|supervisor||reporting work||scolded harshly|||supervisor|a scolding|the manager|suppress anger||a belly full of anger|go back||assistant|organizing|data||without explanation|nitpicking||assistant|||||||||||lose temper||||||bad mood|bad mood cycle|link in chain||||kick the cat effect|||kick the cat||the effect It’s easy for us to come across such things in our lives. The boss bought the stock fell and was annoyed and angry. It happened that the supervisor came in to report on the work. The boss scolded the supervisor. The supervisor suffocated his stomach and went back, and saw the assistant sorting out the information. I can't help but provoke criticism, and the assistant is not happy anymore, because I lose my temper with other people because of a little thing... You may be a part of this cycle of bad emotions, and this is the cat kicking effect in psychology. 우리 생활 속에서 이런 일들을 쉽게 접할 수 있습니다. 사놓은 주식이 떨어져서 상사가 짜증나고 화가 났는데, 상사가 업무 보고를 하러 들어와서 상사는 상사에게 심하게 꾸중을 하고 상사는 화를 억누르고 사무실로 돌아가서 정리하는 비서를 보고는 비서를 잔소리하고 질책하지 않을 수 없고 비서는 기분이 좋지 않고 사소한 일로 다른 사람에게 화를 내고 ...... 이것이 바로 나쁜 감정 사이클의 고리 중 하나이며 심리학에서는 고양이 발길질 효과라고 부르고 있습니다.

上面 的 例子 就 揭示 了 人 的 不满情绪 和 糟糕 心情 的 传递 链条 ， 所以 那个 同事 在 当 了 “ 出气筒 ” 之后 很 可能 会 再 找 下 一个 事物 来 发泄 出去 。 ||example||reveals||||dissatisfaction||bad mood|bad mood||transmission|chain|||||||punching bag|||||||||target||venting emotions| The above example reveals the transmission chain of people's dissatisfaction and bad mood, so that colleague may find another thing to vent after becoming a "punching bag".

那 为什么 产生 踢 猫 效应 呢 ？ ||causes|kick||kicking the cat effect| So why does the cat kicking effect occur? 그렇다면 왜 고양이 발차기 효과가 있을까요? 一般而言 ， 人 的 情绪 会 受到 环境 以及 一些 偶然 因素 的 影响 ， 当 一个 人 的 情绪 变坏 时 ， 潜意识 会 驱使 他 选择 下属 或 无法 还击 的 弱者 发泄 ， 而 受到 上司 或者 强者 情绪 攻击 的 人 又 会 去 寻找 自己 的 出气筒 。 Generally speaking|||emotions|will|be affected by|environment|and some||accidental factors|factors|||||||emotions|get worse||subconscious mind||drive|||subordinate|||retaliation||weaker ones|venting emotions|||boss||strong person||emotional attack||||||looking for|||venting target Generally speaking, people’s emotions will be affected by the environment and some accidental factors. When a person’s emotions go bad, his subconscious mind will drive him to choose subordinates or the weak who can’t fight back to vent, and those who are emotionally attacked by the boss or the strong will vent. Will look for my own punching bag. 일반적으로 인간의 감정은 우연한 요인뿐만 아니라 환경의 영향을 받기도 합니다. 사람의 감정이 나빠지면 잠재의식은 반격할 수 없는 아랫사람이나 약자를 선택하여 화풀이하도록 유도하고, 상사나 강자에게 감정적으로 공격당한 사람은 자신의 샌드백을 찾게 됩니다. 这样 就 会 形成 一条 清晰 的 愤怒 传递 链条 ， 最终 的 承受者 ， 即 “ 猫 ”， 是 最 弱小 的 群体 ， 也 是 受气 最 多 的 群体 。 |||form||clear||anger|conveying anger|chain|eventually||recipient|that is||||weakest group||group|||the scapegoat||||group In this way, a clear chain of anger transmission will be formed, and the ultimate recipients, the "cats", are the weakest group and the group that gets the most angry. 이런 식으로 분노의 명확한 전달 사슬이 형성되고 궁극적 인 전달자, 즉 "고양이"는 가장 약한 그룹이자 가장 불만을 품은 그룹입니다.

那坏 情绪 到底 是 如何 产生 的 呢 ？ that bad|emotion|||how||| So how do bad emotions come about? 나쁜 기분은 어떻게 생기나요? 现代 社会 中 ， 工作 与 生活 的 压力 越来越 大 ， 竞争 越来越 激烈 。 ||||with||||||competition||intense In modern society, the pressure of work and life is increasing, and the competition is becoming more and more fierce. 현대 사회에서 일과 생활의 압박은 점점 더 커지고 경쟁은 점점 더 치열해지고 있습니다. 这种 紧张 很 容易 导致 人们 情绪 的 不 稳定 ， 一点 不如意 就 会 使 自己 烦恼 、 愤怒 起来 ， 如果 不能 及时 调整 这种 消极因素 带给 自己 的 负面影响 ， 就 会 身不由己 地 加入 到 “ 踢 猫 ” 的 队伍 当中 —— 被 别人 “ 踢 ” 和 去 “ 踢 ” 别人 。 |tension|||to lead to||emotions|||stability||unpleasantness|||||worry|anger||||in time|adjustment||negative factors|brings to|||negative impact|||out of control||||kick the cat|||cycle|in the group||||||| This kind of tension can easily lead to emotional instability of people, and a little unsatisfactory will make oneself annoyed and angry. If you cannot adjust the negative impact of this negative factor in time, you will involuntarily join the "kick the cat". Among the teams — to be "kicked" by others and to "kick" others. 이러한 종류의 긴장은 쉽게 정서적 불안정으로 이어지고 사람들은 사소한 불행에도 짜증과 분노를 느끼게 됩니다. 이러한 부정적인 요인으로 인한 부정적인 영향을 즉시 조정하지 못하면 다른 사람에게 "발로 차고" 다른 사람을 발로 차는 "고양이 발로 차는" 팀에 합류하게 됩니다.

像 这种 踢 猫 效应 在生活中 屡见不鲜 ， 产生 的 消极影响 也 是 不容忽视 的 。 like||||effect|in life|common occurrence|produces||negative impact|||cannot be ignored|that Cat kicking effects like this are not uncommon in life, and the negative impact it produces cannot be ignored. 이런 종류의 고양이 발차기 효과는 우리 삶에서 드물지 않으며, 그 부정적인 영향을 간과해서는 안 됩니다.

第一 ， 伤害 自己 的 身体 。 |to harm||| First, hurt your body. 愤怒 的 情绪 对 人 的 身心健康 是 不利 的 。 anger||emotions||||physical and mental health||adverse| Angry emotions are detrimental to one's physical and mental health. 분노는 신체적, 정신적 건강에 해롭습니다. 中医 认为 “ 怒伤 肝 ”、“ 气大 伤神 ”， 就是指 愤怒 使得 心跳 加快 ， 血压 上升 ， 面红耳赤 。 Traditional Chinese Medicine|believes|Anger harms liver|liver|excessive anger|spirit damage|refers to|anger|causes|heart rate|accelerate|blood pressure|rising|red-faced Chinese medicine believes that "anger hurts the liver" and "anger hurts the soul", which means that anger makes the heart beat faster, blood pressure rises, and the face is flushed. 한의학에서는 "화는 간을 상하게 한다", "큰 화는 정신을 상하게 한다"고 하여 화를 내면 심장이 빨리 뛰고 혈압이 상승하며 얼굴이 빨개진다고 합니다. 气逆而 上 ， 头痛 、 眩晕 ， 甚则 吐血 或 昏厥 卒 倒 等 ， 易发 高血压 、 冠心病 等 疾病 。 Qi counterflow||headache|dizziness|severe cases|coughing blood||fainting|sudden death||and so on|easily develops|hypertension|coronary heart disease||diseases The qi goes up backwards, headache, dizziness, even vomiting blood or fainting, etc., prone to hypertension, coronary heart disease and other diseases. 기가 위로 역류하면 두통, 현기증, 심지어는 토혈이나 실신 뇌졸중 등이 발생하여 고혈압, 관상 동맥 심장 질환 및 기타 질병에 걸리기 쉽습니다.

第二 ， 引发 更 多 不 理智 情绪 。 |triggered more irrational emotions||||rationality|emotions Second, trigger more irrational emotions. 둘째, 더 비이성적인 감정을 유발합니다. 愤怒 时 因为 情绪 处于 激动 之中 ， 还 可能 引发 其他 更 严重 的 连锁反应 。 anger||||in a state of|excited||||to trigger||more|more serious||chain reaction When anger is agitated, it may also trigger other more serious chain reactions. 比如 ： 自以为是 、 自尊 受损 、 好 下结论 等 ， 这些 都 可能 使 事态 向 更 严重 的 方向 发展 。 |self-righteous|self-esteem|damaged self-esteem||draw conclusions||||may||situation|||||direction| For example: self-righteousness, impaired self-esteem, easy to draw conclusions, etc., these may make the situation develop in a more serious direction.

第三 ， 影响 人际关系 和谐 。 ||interpersonal relationships|harmony Third, it affects the harmony of interpersonal relationships. 人际关系 是 具有 相互 性 和 平等性 的 ， 你 如何 对 别人 ， 别人 将来 也 会 如何 对 你 。 Interpersonal relationships||has|mutual|mutuality||equality|||||||future||||| Interpersonal relationships are mutually and equal. How you treat others, others will treat you in the future. 以 高傲 的 姿态 随意 地 将 自己 的 怒气 发泄 到 身边 人 身上 ， 会 使 自己 跟 他人 心理 上 的 距离 越来越 远 。 |arrogant||posture|casually|||||anger|venting anger||||||||with|||||psychological distance|| If you vent your anger to the people around you in a haughty posture, you will get farther and farther away from others psychologically.

我们 该 如何 避免 踢 猫 效应 呢 ？ ||how to|to avoid|||the cat effect| How can we avoid the cat kicking effect?

第一 ， 我们 要 避免 去 “ 踢 ” 别人 。 |||to avoid||to kick| First, we must avoid "kicking" others.

首先 ， 正确 面对 批评 。 |correctly||criticism First, face criticism correctly. 在 面对 批评 时 ， 谁 都 会 有 不 高兴 的 情绪 ， 但是 更 重要 的 还是 要 想 一下 自己 是否 错 了 ， 应该 怎样 改 。 ||criticism||who|||||||emotions||||||||||whether|wrong|past tense marker|should|how|change When faced with criticism, everyone will feel unhappy, but it is more important to think about whether you are wrong and how you should correct it. 如果 发现自己 成 了 他人 的 出气筒 ， 你 现在 知道 他 今天 只是 “ 踢 猫 ” 了 而已 ， 自己 没 必要 生气 愤怒 ， 拿 别人 的 错误 惩罚 自己 。 ||||||punching bag||||||||scapegoat||just that|||||angry|||||punishment| If you find that you have become someone else's punching bag, you now know that he was just "kicking the cat" today. You don't need to be angry and punish yourself for other people's mistakes.

其次 ， 学会 情绪 管理 。 Secondly|Learn to manage||emotional management Second, learn emotional management. 在 失控 之前 要 冷静 ， 要 知道 处理 心情 比 处理 事情 更 重要 。 |out of control|||calm down|||to handle|||||| Be calm before you lose control, knowing that dealing with your mood is more important than dealing with things. 在 坏 情绪 产生 后 ， 要 明白 自己 产生 了 什么样 的 情绪 ， 是 悲伤 ？ |bad||to arise|||||to arise||||||sadness After a bad mood occurs, it is necessary to understand what kind of mood you have, is it sadness? 是 愤怒 ？ Is it anger? 还是 焦虑 ？ |anxious Or anxious? 然后 要 明白 自己 为什么 会 产生 这样 的 情绪 ， 是因为 失败 ？ |||||||||emotions||failure Then you have to understand why you have such emotions, is it because of failure? 责骂 ？ scold scold? 还是 不 了解 ？ Still don't understand? 了解 这些 之后 再 处理 自己 的 情绪 ， 听听 音乐 、 深呼吸 、 运动 、 找人 聊聊 、 涂鸦 、 用笔 抒情 等等 都 可以 。 understand||||deal with||||||to take a deep breath||talk to someone||doodling|writing|express feelings||| After understanding these, you can deal with your own emotions, listen to music, take a deep breath, exercise, find someone to chat, do graffiti, use a pen to express emotions, etc.

最后 ， 己所不欲 ， 勿施于人 。 |what you don't want|Do not impose on others Finally, do not do to others what you do not want. 理解 别人 的 困难 ， 宽容 对待 别人 的 错误 ， 不要 轻易 的 把 坏 情绪 带给 他人 ， 让 周围 的 人能 轻松 的 和 自己 相处 。 understanding||||tolerance|treating with tolerance|||||easily|||||bring to|||the people around||can|||||getting along Understand the difficulties of others, be tolerant of others' mistakes, and don't easily bring bad emotions to others, so that people around you can get along with yourself easily.

第二 ， 我们 要 避免 被 别人 “ 踢 ”。 Second, we want to avoid being "kicked" by others.

首先 ， 要 学会 察言观色 ， 避其 锋芒 。 |||read the situation|avoid its sharpness|sharpness First of all, we must learn to observe words and colors and avoid their sharp edges. 就 像 小时候 我们 看着 老师 脸色 阴沉 的 走进 教室 ， 立刻 乖乖 的 不吵不闹 了 ， 这个 时候 “ 调皮 ” 的 人 一定 不会 有 好 果子吃 …… ||||||facial expression|sullen||walks into|classroom||obediently||quietly||||naughty|||||||good results Just like when we were young, we watched the teacher walk into the classroom with a gloomy face, and immediately stopped being noisy and obedient. At this time, "naughty" people will definitely not have good fruit...

其次 ， 委婉 聪明 ， 灵活 应对 。 Secondly|tactful||flexible|responding to Secondly, be euphemistic and smart, and be flexible. 这里 举个 例子 ， 骂骂咧咧 走进 餐厅 的 一位 顾客 指着 面前 的 牛奶 大声 呵斥 “ 牛奶 变质 了 ！ |give an example||grumbling||the restaurant|||customer||||the milk|loudly|scolded||spoiled| Here is an example. A customer who entered the restaurant cursingly pointed to the milk in front of him and shouted, "The milk has gone bad!" 把 红茶 糟蹋 了 ！ |black tea|wasted| Spoiled the black tea! ” 服务员 很快 的 重新 上 了 份 新 的 并且 轻声 建议 红茶 放 了 牛奶 ， 最好 不要 加 柠檬 了 ， 因为 会 使 牛奶 结块 。 waiter|||again|||||||||black tea|||||||lemon||||||curdle The waiter quickly re-served a new one and softly suggested that the black tea should be filled with milk. It is best not to add lemon, because it will cause the milk to clump. 这样 就 很 好 的 避免 了 成为 踢 猫 效应 的 参与者 。 |||||to avoid|||||the kicking the cat effect||participants In this way, it is very good to avoid being a participant in the kicking cat effect.

第三 ， 我们 要 传递 好 心情 。 |||to pass on|good mood| Third, we have to convey a good mood. 前段时间 微信里 发 自己 微笑 的 照片 并点 十个 人 传递 微笑 ， 让 朋友圈 被 微笑 刷屏 的 活动 ， 就是 传递 好 心情 的 方式 。 a while ago|in WeChat|||smile|||and tag|||pass on|smile||Moments|||flooding the feed||||pass on|||| Some time ago, I posted a photo of my smile on WeChat and clicked ten people to pass the smile, and the activity of letting the circle of friends be swiped by the smile is a way to convey a good mood.

踢 猫 效应 危害 的 不仅仅 是 一两个 人 ， 你 一次 随意 的 发泄 ， 可能 会 产生 蝴蝶效应 般的 影响 ， 或者 是 使 弱小 的 “ 猫 ” 遭受 无端 的 伤害 。 |||harm||||||||casual||to vent||||butterfly effect|like|||||the weak|||suffer from|unjustified|| The cat kicking effect harms more than just one or two people. If you vent at will, you may have a butterfly-like effect, or cause the weak "cat" to suffer unprovoked harm. 所以 ， 每天 反省 一下 自己 ： 你 今天 “ 踢 猫 ” 了 吗 ? therefore||self-reflection|||||||| So, reflect on yourself every day: Did you "kick the cat" today?