3 vežbe za više SAMOPOUZDANJA
|||self-confidence
3 Übungen für mehr VERTRAUEN
3 exercises for more CONFIDENCE
3 個練習增強信心
Dragi moji,
imam pitanje za vas:
da li vi pripadate grupi ljudi
|||belong|to the group|
do you belong to a group of people
kojima je jako neprijatno kad ih neko hvali
|||unpleasant||||praises
who are very uncomfortable when someone praises them
a ne daj Bože da bi za nešto sami sebe pohvalili.
|||God|||||||praise
and God forbid that they would praise themselves for something.
Ako pripadate toj grupi ljudi i osećate
If you belong to that group of people and feel
da nemate dovoljno samopouzdanja,
|you don't have||
that you don't have enough self-confidence,
onda će vam ovaj video biti super koristan
then this video will be super useful for you
jer do kraja ću vam dati tri zanimljive
because by the end I will give you three interesting ones
vežbe koje će vam pomoći
exercises to help you
da svoju vrednost sagledate
||value|assess
to see your worth
i da možete da je iznesete pred drugima.
|||||carry it out||
and that you can present it in front of others.
Pogledajte obavezno video do kraja i ako vam se dopadne,
|||||||||like
Be sure to watch the video until the end and if you like it,
onda ga lajkujte.
Ja sam Slavica. Ovo je moj YouTube kanal
na kom uvek možete da nađete divne
korisne savete kako da
kreirate život i posao koje ćete da obožavate.
create|||||||
Šta se u stvari dešava sa ljudima?
Najviše sa nama ženama; nekako kao da smo tako
|||women|||||
Mostly with us women; somehow it's like we are like that
vaspitane, jako nam je teško da nas neko hvali.
upbringing||||||||
well-mannered, it is very difficult for us to have someone praise us.
I samopouzdanje je za žene često
|self-confidence||||
veći problem nego za muškarce.
||||men
a bigger problem than for men.
Ali svejedno, ovi saveti pomažu svakome.
|anyway||||everyone
But still, these tips help everyone.
Pod broj jedan, zato, bih ja volela da razmislite
about||||||||
Under number one, therefore, I would like you to think
koje su tri vaše
|||your
what three are yours
najbolje osobine?
|traits
best features?
Zaista razmislite o tome. Ja znam da je jako
Really think about it. I know it's strong
teško jer se mi često fokusiramo na negativno.
|||||||the negative
difficult because we often focus on the negative.
i znamo tačno šta nam fali, šta nam nedostaje...
||exactly||||||
and we know exactly what we lack, what we lack...
šta nije dobro kod nas, ali kad nas neko pita
what is wrong with us, but when someone asks us
"Koje su tvoje najbolje osobine", ljudi to jako teško definišu.
||your|||||||define
"What are your best qualities", people find it very difficult to define.
A to je zato što podrazumevaju sve svoje dobre stvari.
|||||they take for granted||||
And that's because they take all their good things for granted.
Znači, sve ono u čemu smo super, pa kao: "Dobro, pa podrazumeva se"
So, everything that we are great at, so like: "Okay, so it goes without saying"
"Ja sam takav..."
||like that
Razmislite o tome šta kažu drugi o vama
Think about what others say about you
Šta hvale drugi kod vas? Šta je, na primer, to što vaši prijatelji
|||||||||||your|
What do others praise about you? What, for example, is that your friends
kažu: Jao ti si super u ovome ili u onome"...
||||||this|||
they say: Oh, you're great at this or that"...
Popišite sve te stvari. Uzmite sveščicu i
||||take||
List all those things. Take a candle and
napišite sve što se sećate da vas drugi hvale.
||||you remember||||
write down everything you remember others praising you for.
I ja bih jako volela da izaberete tri
||||||choose|
I would also really like you to choose three
vaše naj.. naj.. naj...
|||the best
your most.. most.. most...
najjače strane, najbolje osobine
strongest|||
strengths, best qualities
zbog kojih vas drugi hvale i u kojima ste tako
for which others praise you and in which you are so
dobri, da ih vi i ne primećujete.
||||||notice
so good that you don't even notice them.
Jer važno je da postanete toga svesni.
||||||aware
Because it is important that you become aware of it.
Evo, na primer, meni kažu ljudi da sam jako strukturirana
|||||||||structured
Here, for example, people tell me that I am very structured
Da imam smisla da od kompleksnih stvari
||sense|||complex|
To make sense of complex things
napravim jednostavno,
make it simple
da jednostavno objasnim stvari. Vi mi stalno pišete i kažete:
||I explain|||||||
to simply explain things. You keep writing to me and saying:
"Jao, konačno razumem neke stvari i sve mi je ovo jako jednostavno"
"Ouch, I finally understand some things and this is all very simple to me"
Takođe mi kažu da sam strpljiva, mada se ja
|||||patient|although||
They also tell me that I am patient, although I am
ne osećam uvek tako, ali znam
i don't always feel that way, but i know
suštinski da sam strpljiva i da imam strpljenja
essentially|||||||patience
essentially that I am patient and that I have patience
da istrajem u nekim stvarima i istrajna sam takođe.
|I persevere|||||persistent||
to persevere in some things and I am also persistent.
Veoma!
I nije mi to problem da kažem.
Strukturirana,
da sam strpljiva i da sam istrajna
i još puno toga.
and much more.
Volela bih da i vi
I wish you would too
sagledate šta ste i da vam bude lako
look at what you are and make it easy for you
da to kažete, znate. Da vam sasvim bude lako
Da kada priča neko o vama i
Yes, when someone talks about you and
kada kaže nešto od toga, da kažete "Hvala"
when he says something like that, to say "thank you"
da se ne izvinjavate zbog toga, jer obično, ja kažem
|||apologize||||||
don't apologize for it, because usually, I say
nekad nekoj mojoj prijateljici ili mojoj polaznici
|to some|||||student
once to a friend of mine or a student of mine
kažem nešto lepo, pohvalim je nešto
|||praising||
I say something nice, I praise her something
i stvarno to mislim, a onda ona krene da se opravdava, kao...
||||||||||justifies|
and I really mean it, and then she starts making excuses, like...
"Niiije, pa, eto..." NE! Samo kažeš
no|||||you say
"Niiije, well, there..." NO! You're just saying
"Hvala!" Hvala.
Jer to ostavlja utisak
||it leaves|
Because it leaves an impression
da razumete svoju vrednost, da
|understand|||
to understand your worth, yes
je u redu, da ste vredni i da znate
|||||diligent|||
is fine, that you are worthy and that you know
da ste vredni.
||diligent
i da vas nije sramota zbog toga - naprotiv!
||||ashamed|||on the contrary
Da ste ok sa tim i da je to u redu.
That you are ok with it and that it is fine.
Znači, to je onako odraz samopouzdanja, kažete hvala
||||reflection|||
So, it's a reflection of self-confidence, you say thank you
Druga stvar koju bih volela
Another thing I would like
da naučite je da naučite da se predstavite.
|||||||introduce
to learn is to learn to introduce yourself.
to će sigurno da pomogne
that will surely help
i doprinese vašem samopouzdanju, ako malo uvežebate
|||self-confidence|||practice
and it contributes to your self-confidence, if you practice a little
šta ćete reći.
what will you say
Na primer,
kada ste negde i neko vas pita ko ste, šta ste...
when you are somewhere and someone asks you who you are, what you are...
kad imate priliku da kažete
when you have a chance to say
možda na nekim poslovnim razgovorima,
|||business|meetings
maybe at some business talks,
sastancima i tako dalje, da možda
meetings|||||
meetings and so on, yes maybe
da možda kažete nešto o sebi što je zanimljivo
||||||||interesting
to maybe say something about yourself that is interesting
što budi interesovanje drugih ljudi i
||interest|||
which arouses the interest of other people and
nešto sa čim se vi osećate dobro, a tačno je o vama
something that you feel good about and that is true about you
Da ne kažete samo: "Ja sam Svetlana", na primer i:
||||||Svetlana|||
So that you don't just say: "I'm Svetlana", for example:
"Ja radim u banci".
|||bank
"I work in a bank".
Šta ljudi onda zamisle? Kao sedite na šalteru i šta ja znam...
|||imagine||||||||
What do people think then? Like sitting at the counter and what do I know...
Umesto toga možete da kažete: Dobar dan, ja sam Svetlana
i ja sam zaposlena u banci
|||employed||
I also work in a bank
a brinem se da
|I worry||
and I worry that
ljudi koji dolaze u banku, svi naši klijenti
||come||bank|||
people who come to the bank, all our clients
dobiju proizvode i budu
they get|products||
get products and be
usluženi prema svojim životnim situacijama.
|according to||life|situations
served according to their life situations.
Tačno tako kako njima odgovara.
Just the way it suits them.
Ili na primer često doživim da mi
||||experience||
Or, for example, I often experience that we
polaznice kažu: ja sam majka i nezaposlena sam.
the female students||||mother|||
participants say: I am a mother and I am unemployed.
Ja onda pitam: "Dobro, koliko imate dece?" A one kažu:
Dvoje, troje, četvoro nekad.
||four|
Two, three, four sometimes.
Ja bih pre sastavila neku rečenicu i rekla bih
|||I would compose|||||
I would rather put together a sentence and say
Ja se bavim time da jedno petočlano
||||||five-member
I deal with the fact that a five-member
ili šestočlano domaćinstvo
|six-member|household
funkcioniše i za to koristim
it works||||
puno senzitivnosti koja je potrebna za tako nešto
|sensitivity|||necessary|||
a lot of sensitivity that is needed for such a thing
ali takođe i dozu strogosti
|||a dose|strictness
but also a touch of rigor
da zadržim okvir za
|I keep|frame|
to keep the frame for
sve članove porodice i da sve funkcioniše kako treba.
|members|||||||
all family members and that everything works as it should.
Ej, to je posao! Veliki posao!
hey|||||
Hey, it's work! Big business!
I ljudima to može da deluje sasvim drugačije nego da kažete
And it can seem quite different to people than you say
"Ja sam majka i nezaposlena sam", a u stvari radite jako puno toga.
"I am a mother and I am unemployed", when in fact you are doing a lot of things.
Tako da, delujete samopouzdanije
|||more confidently
So, you seem more confident
i delujete kao da je to
|you seem||||
and you act like it is
vama u redu što radite.
you're fine with what you're doing.
Ako kažete: "Ja sam majka i nezaposlena sam", kao da
If you say: "I'm a mother and I'm unemployed", like yes
se osećate loše sa tim, što je šteta.
you feel bad about it, which is a shame.
Znači, samopouzdanje
je stvar malo i vežbe, znači, osmislite
||||||come up with
it's a matter of a little practice, so come up with it
svoju rečenicu, kako ćete se predstaviti i
|||||introduce|
your sentence, how you will introduce yourself and
ponovite nekoliko puta sami za sebe, dok vam ne bude
repeat|||||||||
repeat a few times to yourself, until you get used to it
onako kako vama odgovara i onda kad vas
as it suits you and when you
neko nekad pita, negde, da se predstavite
someone sometimes asks, somewhere, to introduce yourself
vi onda lepo kažete tu svoju rečenicu
then you say your sentence beautifully
samouvereno, odmereno, mirno
|measured|calmly
confident, measured, calm
onda probudite tuđe interesovanje i sasvim drugačije
|you awaken|other people's||||
then arouse other people's interest and quite differently
delujete.
you seem
I još jedna stvar koja može
And one more thing that can
da vam puno, puno pomogne da vaše samopouzdanje
to help you a lot, a lot to your self-confidence
ostane na visokom nivou. To je treća stvar
||high|level||||
remain at a high level. That's the third thing
a to je
da uzmete istu onu svesku gde ste pisali sve svoje
|||||||wrote||
to take the same notebook where you wrote all your things
dobre osobine
i gde ste možda zapisali i ovu rečenicu
||||wrote down||this|
kako ćete se predstaviti i zapišete deset stvari
||||||ten|
how you will introduce yourself and write down ten things
u vašem životu koje ste
in your life that you are
postigli i koje su stvarno pohvalne.
|||||praiseworthy
achieved and which are really commendable.
Vama se možda podrazumevaju, ali stvarno su pohvalne.
They may be obvious to you, but they are really commendable.
I navedite sve što vam pada na pamet, sve što
|list||||||mind||
And name everything you can think of, everything
biste možda za nekog drugog rekli: "WOW"
||||||WOW
"Završio je to, uradio je to, ima to"... Pa na primer
možete da kažete: Ja sam završila
|||||finished
you can say: I'm done
školu sa
school with
diplomirala sam sa desetkom, na primer, ja to mogu da kažem za sebe
I graduated|||a ten|||||||||
I graduated with a ten, for example, I can say that for myself
Ja sam diplomirala na PMF-u sa desetkom.
||||Faculty of Science|||a ten
I graduated from PMF with a ten.
Ili možete da kažete, na primer, za sebe:
"Ja sam majka troje dece"
"I am a mother of three children"
Ili možete da kažete na primer
da ste, ne znam
if you are, I don't know
bili u inostranstvu sami i
were abroad alone and
snašli ste se ili ste bili u nekom stranom gradu
found|||||||some||
have you found your way or have you been to a foreign city
i snašli ste se sami u nekom
||||||somebody
and you found yourself in someone
nepoznatom okruženju. To je fantastično!
|environment|||fantastic
Neki ljudi se uopšte ne usuđuju
|||||dare
Some people don't dare at all
nikad nigde da odu zato što se plaše da se neće snaći
|nowhere||||||they are afraid||||manage
they never go anywhere because they are afraid they won't make it
a vi ste to možda doživeli.
|||||experienced
Ili možda možete da kažete:
"Ja sam naučila da sviram neki instrument" ili
||||play||instrument|
"I learned to play an instrument" or
jezik. Znam engleski, na primer.
Nema veze, čak i ako ga ne znate dobro, možda ga razumete
Pa ne razume to svako. To je pohvalno.
|||||||praiseworthy
Well, not everyone understands that. That is commendable.
Napišite sve o sebi što je pohvalno i onda izaberite
|||||||||choose
Write everything about yourself that is commendable and then choose
deset najvažnijih stvari, tako da uvek imate u vidu
|most important|||||||mind
ten most important things, so you always have in mind
kada vam treba samopouzdanje, kada vam
stanje pada, kada negde treba da
state|||||
the state of falling, when somewhere you need to
odete gde biste voleli da imate samopouzdanja, pročitajte
about|||||||read
ko ste u stvari. Uzmite tu sveščicu
i pročitajte ko ste, šta ste sve postigli i koliko
ste u stvari fantastični. I onda
|||fantastic||
ponovite svoju rečenicu
i možda dodajte tri svoje najbolje osobine unutra
||add|||||
and maybe add three of your best traits in there
i vaše samopouzdanje će već
and your confidence will already
da bude na višem nivou.
|||higher|
to be at a higher level.
Ako vam je ovo korisno, podelite sa
vašim prijateljima, pritisnite LIKE
your|||
i obavezno SUBSCRIBE i svakog četvrtka
and be sure to SUBSCRIBE every Thursday
ćemo vas obavestiti
||inform
we will let you know
o novim savetima koji
|new||
about new tips that
vama mogu pomoći da
I can help you
kreirate život i posao koje ćete da volite.
Možete mi napisati svoju rečenicu dole
||write|||
u komentar ili napišite
svoje tri najbolje osobine, znači
pišite mi, kako vam ide, šta vam ovo znači
ili ako ste to već uradili
posle kad se setite ovog videa,
|||remember||video
napišite mi kakva su iskustva bila
||||experiences|
kada ste izgovorili svoju rečenicu
||spoken||
when you said your sentence
i kako ste se osećali tada. Ima li to nekog
||||felt|||||
and how did you feel then. Is there anyone?
efekta na vas?
effect||
Sve vas pozdravljam i vidimo se sledećeg četvrtka.
I greet you all and see you next Thursday.