TED Talks, Ric Elias: 3 things I learned while my plane crashed

Ric Elias: 3 things I learned while my plane crashed

Imagine a big explosion as you climb through 3,000 ft. Imagine a plane full of smoke.Imagine an engine going clack, clack, clack, clack, clack, clack, clack.It sounds scary. Well I had a unique seat that day. I was sitting in 1D.I was the only one who could talk to the flight attendants.So I looked at them right away, and they said, "No problem. We probably hit some birds. "The pilot had already turned the plane around, and we weren't that far.You could see Manhattan.Two minutes later,three things happened at the same time.The pilot lines up the plane with the Hudson River.That's usually not the route. (Laughter ) He turns off the engines.Now imagine being in a plane with no sound. And then he says three words --the most unemotional three words I've ever heard. He says, "Brace for impact. "I didn't have to talk to the flight attendant anymore. (Laughter) I could see in her eyes,it was terror. Life was over.

The second thing I learned that day --and this is as we clear the George Washington Bridge, which was by not a lot --I thought about, wow, I really feel one real regret. I've lived a good life.In my own humanity and mistakes, I've tried to get better at everything I tried. But in my humanity, I also allow my ego to get in. And I regretted the time I wasted on things that did not matter with people that matter. And I thought about my relationship with my wife, with my friends, with people. And after, as I reflected on that, I decided to eliminate negative energy from my life.It's not perfect, but it's a lot better.I've not had a fight with my wife in two years. It feels great. I no longer try to be right; I choose to be happy.

The third thing I learned --and this is as your mental clock starts going, "15, 14, 13. "You can see the water coming. I'm saying, "Please blow up. "I don't want this thing to break in 20 pieces like you've seen in those documentaries. And as we're coming down,I had a sense of, wow,dying is not scary. It's almost like we've been preparing for it our whole lives.But it was very sad. I didn't want to go; I love my life. And that sadness really framed in one thought, which is, I only wish for one thing.I only wish I could see my kids grow up. About a month later, I was at a performance by my daughter --first-grader, not much artistic talent ...... yet. (Laughter) And I'm balling, I'm crying, like a little kid. And it made all the sense in the world to me.I realized at that point, by connecting those two dots, that the only thing that matters in my life is being a great dad. Above all, above all, the only goal I have in life is to be a good dad.

I was given the gift of a miracle,of not dying that day. I was given another gift, which was to be able to see into the future and come back and live differently. I challenge you guys that are flying today, imagine the same thing happens on your plane --and please don't --but imagine, and how would you change? What would you get done that you're waiting to get done because you think you'll be here forever? How would you change your relationships and the negative energy in them? And more than anything, are you being the best parent you can?

Thank you.

(Applause)

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Imagine a big explosion as you climb through 3,000 ft. |||esplosione||||| Imagine uma grande explosão enquanto você sobe por 3.000 pés. Imagine a plane full of smoke.Imagine an engine going clack, clack, clack, clack, clack, clack, clack.It sounds scary. Well I had a unique seat that day. I was sitting in 1D.I was the only one who could talk to the flight attendants.So I looked at them right away, and they said, "No problem. ||||||||||||||||assistenti|||||||||||| Eu estava sentado em 1D. Eu era o único que podia falar com as comissárias de bordo. Então, olhei para eles imediatamente e eles disseram: "Não há problema. We probably hit some birds. "The pilot had already turned the plane around, and we weren't that far.You could see Manhattan.Two minutes later,three things happened at the same time.The pilot lines up the plane with the Hudson River.That's usually not the route. "조종사는 이미 비행기를 돌렸고 우리는 그렇게 멀지 않았고 맨해튼이 보였습니다.2분 후, 세 가지 일이 동시에 일어났습니다.조종사는 비행기를 허드슨 강과 정렬했습니다.일반적으로는 그런 경로가 아닙니다. (Laughter ) He turns off the engines.Now imagine being in a plane with no sound. And then he says three words --the most unemotional three words I've ever heard. ||||||||incolore||||| He says, "Brace for impact. "I didn't have to talk to the flight attendant anymore. ||||||||assistente di volo| (Laughter) I could see in her eyes,it was terror. Life was over.

Now I want to share with you three things I learned about myself that day. I learned that it all changes in an instant.We have this bucket list, we have these things we want to do in life, and I thought about all the people I wanted to reach out to that I didn't, all the fences I wanted to mend, all the experiences I wanted to have and I never did. ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||raggiungere||||||||||| 버킷리스트가 있고, 인생에서 하고 싶은 일들이 있고, 연락하고 싶었지만 하지 못한 사람들, 고치고 싶었던 울타리, 하고 싶었지만 하지 못한 경험들을 생각하며 모든 것이 순식간에 바뀐다는 것을 배웠습니다. Я понял, что все меняется в одно мгновение. У нас есть этот список желаний, у нас есть то, что мы хотим сделать в жизни, и я подумал обо всех людях, с которыми я хотел связаться, но не сделал этого, обо всех заборах, которые я хотел исправить, все переживания, которые я хотел иметь, но я никогда не делал. As I thought about that later on, I came up with a saying, which is, "I collect bad wines. ||||||||||||||||||vini Размышляя об этом позже, я придумал поговорку: «Я собираю плохие вина. "Because if the wine is ready and the person is there, I'm opening it. «Потому что, если вино готово и человек там, я открываю его. I no longer want to postpone anything in life. Não quero mais adiar nada na vida. Я больше не хочу ничего откладывать в жизни. And that urgency, that purpose, has really changed my life. ||urgenza||||||| И эта безотлагательность, эта цель действительно изменили мою жизнь.

The second thing I learned that day --and this is as we clear the George Washington Bridge, which was by not a lot --I thought about, wow, I really feel one real regret. Второе, что я узнал в тот день — и это когда мы очищали мост Джорджа Вашингтона, которого было не так много, — я подумал о том, вау, я действительно испытываю одно настоящее сожаление. I've lived a good life.In my own humanity and mistakes, I've tried to get better at everything I tried. Я прожил хорошую жизнь. Из-за своей человечности и ошибок я пытался стать лучше во всем, что пробовал. But in my humanity, I also allow my ego to get in. Но в своей человечности я также позволяю своему эго проникнуть внутрь. And I regretted the time I wasted on things that did not matter with people that matter. ||ho rimpianto|||||||||||||| E me arrependi do tempo que perdi em coisas que não importavam para as pessoas que importam. И я сожалел о времени, потраченном впустую на вещи, которые не имели значения, с людьми, которые имеют значение. And I thought about my relationship with my wife, with my friends, with people. И я думал о своих отношениях с женой, с друзьями, с людьми. And after, as I reflected on that, I decided to eliminate negative energy from my life.It's not perfect, but it's a lot better.I've not had a fight with my wife in two years. И после того, как я задумался над этим, я решил убрать негативную энергию из своей жизни. Это не идеально, но намного лучше. Я не ссорился с женой уже два года. It feels great. Parece ótimo. Это прекрасно. I no longer try to be right; I choose to be happy. Я больше не пытаюсь быть правым; Я выбираю быть счастливым.

The third thing I learned --and this is as your mental clock starts going, "15, 14, 13. Третье, чему я научился, — это когда ваши ментальные часы начинают идти: «15, 14, 13. "You can see the water coming. «Видно, как идет вода. I'm saying, "Please blow up. Estou dizendo: "Por favor, exploda. Я говорю: «Пожалуйста, взорвите. "I don't want this thing to break in 20 pieces like you've seen in those documentaries. «Я не хочу, чтобы эта штука развалилась на 20 частей, как вы видели в тех документальных фильмах. And as we're coming down,I had a sense of, wow,dying is not scary. E quando estamos descendo, tive a sensação de que, uau, morrer não é assustador. И когда мы спускались, у меня было ощущение, вау, умирать не страшно. It's almost like we've been preparing for it our whole lives.But it was very sad. Как будто мы готовились к этому всю свою жизнь. Но это было очень грустно. I didn't want to go; I love my life. And that sadness really framed in one thought, which is, I only wish for one thing.I only wish I could see my kids grow up. 그리고 그 슬픔은 한 가지 생각으로 정리되었는데, 바로 '아이들이 자라는 모습을 보고 싶다'는 것이었습니다. И эта печаль действительно обрамлена одной мыслью: я хочу только одного. Я хочу только увидеть, как растут мои дети. About a month later, I was at a performance by my daughter --first-grader, not much artistic talent ...... yet. |||||||||||||elementare||||| Cerca de um mês depois, eu estava em uma apresentação de minha filha - primeira série, sem muito talento artístico ...... ainda. Где-то через месяц я была на спектакле у дочери-первоклассницы, без особых артистических способностей......пока. (Laughter) And I'm balling, I'm crying, like a little kid. |||piangendo|||||| (Risos) E estou brincando, estou chorando, como uma criança. (Смех) А я плююсь, плачу, как маленький ребенок. And it made all the sense in the world to me.I realized at that point, by connecting those two dots, that the only thing that matters in my life is being a great dad. И это имело для меня весь смысл в мире. В тот момент я понял, соединив эти две точки, что единственное, что имеет значение в моей жизни, — это быть отличным отцом. Above all, above all, the only goal I have in life is to be a good dad. Acima de tudo, acima de tudo, o único objetivo que tenho na vida é ser um bom pai. Прежде всего, прежде всего, единственная цель, которую я преследую в жизни, — это быть хорошим отцом.

I was given the gift of a miracle,of not dying that day. Recebi o presente de um milagre, de não morrer naquele dia. Мне был дан дар чуда, не умереть в тот день. I was given another gift, which was to be able to see into the future and come back and live differently. Мне был дан еще один дар, который заключался в том, чтобы заглянуть в будущее, вернуться и жить по-другому. I challenge you guys that are flying today, imagine the same thing happens on your plane --and please don't --but imagine, and how would you change? Desafio vocês que estão voando hoje, imaginem que o mesmo acontece no seu avião - e por favor não - mas imaginem, e como você mudaria? Я призываю вас, ребята, которые сегодня летают, представьте, что то же самое происходит на вашем самолете — и, пожалуйста, не надо — но представьте, и как бы вы изменились? What would you get done that you're waiting to get done because you think you'll be here forever? Что бы вы сделали, чего ждете, потому что думаете, что останетесь здесь навсегда? How would you change your relationships and the negative energy in them? Как бы вы изменили свои отношения и негативную энергию в них? And more than anything, are you being the best parent you can? E mais do que tudo, você está sendo o melhor pai que pode? И самое главное, вы лучший родитель, какой только можете?

Thank you.

(Applause)