3 stvari zbog kojih ste nezadovoljni životom 3 Dinge, die dich mit dem Leben unzufrieden machen 3 things that make you unhappy with life

Dragi moji, dobro mi došli! Ja sam Slavica i ovo je moj YouTube kanal.

Danas se radi o nezadovoljstvu životom.

Često mi se ljudi žale da nisu zadovoljni svojim životom People often complain to me that they are not satisfied with their lives

i možda je to i vaš slučaj and maybe that's your case too

da ste nezadovoljni, a možda i nemate neki baš that you are dissatisfied, and maybe you don't really have one

strašan razlog za to awesome reason for that

ali prosto osećate često to neko nezadovoljstvo. but you just often feel that dissatisfaction.

Postoje tri razloga za to There are three reasons for this

i ja ću vam dati šta da radite and I will give you what to do

ako je to i kod vas slučaj. if that is the case with you.

Pogledajte video do kraja Watch the video till the end

i sigurno će vam biti korisno. Obavezno i uradite ono što vam kažem. and it will certainly be useful to you. Be sure to do what I tell you.

Prvi razlog zbog kog su ljudi često nezadovoljni The first reason people are often dissatisfied

su neki uslovi u životu. Nešto im se ne sviđa. are some conditions in life. They don't like something.

Možda im se posao ne sviđa, Maybe they don't like the job,

nisu zadovoljni poslom, nisu zadovoljni they are not satisfied with the job, they are not satisfied

možda onim što rade maybe by what they do

ljudima sa kojima rade the people they work with

možda nisu zadovoljni ni platom koju imaju i tako dalje maybe they are not satisfied with their salary and so on

a ponekad, može to da bude

na primer, brak, veza, odnosi i tako dalje for example, marriage, relationship, relationships and so on

ponekad može da bude na primer i sometimes it can be for example i

okruženje u kom se živi. Možda, environment in which one lives. Maybe,

više volite tišinu, a živite you prefer silence and live

u gradu gde je bučno i tako dalje. in a city where it is noisy and so on.

Znači, šta god da je: posao, brak, okruženje.. So, whatever it is: work, marriage, environment...

šta god da je izvor vašeg nezadovoljstva whatever is the source of your dissatisfaction

moj savet vam je da my advice to you is to

razmislite i da sednete malo i da zapišete consider sitting down for a while and writing it down

šta je to što vas čini nezadovoljnim? what is it that makes you unhappy?

i da sebi postavite

pitanje i da idete malo dublje. question and to go a little deeper.

Znači, ne da kažete samo: "Posao".

"Ja sam nezadovoljan svojim poslom", nego

šta tačno te uznemirava tamo?

Šta te tačno nervira?

I ako kažete, ne znam, nervira me to što radim.

Šta te tačno tu nervira?

Da razložite to pitanjem: Šta te tačno tu nervira?

Šta te tačno čini nezadovoljnom?

Postavljajte sebi to pitanje dokle god ima odgovora. Ask yourself that question as long as there is an answer.

kako biste onda mogli da postavite nekoliko možda malih stvari so you could then set up a few maybe small things

sa kojima možete lako da izađete na kraj. which you can easily cope with.

Nije lako promeniti posao, ali možda It's not easy to change jobs, but maybe

dođete do toga da vas nešto nervira you get to the point where something annoys you

i da nešto od toga možda može da se promeni. and that maybe some of that can change.

Bez da imate neku tragediju, dramu u životu, nego da Without having some tragedy, drama in your life, but yes

jednostavno i lako može da se promeni. simple and easy to change.

Znači, papir i olovku u ruke i pišite: So, take paper and pen and write:

šta vas tačno nervira, šta vas uznemirava, šta vas čini nezadovoljnim? what exactly annoys you, what upsets you, what makes you unhappy?

U vašem životu i šta tačno i šta tačno i šta još...

I onda napravite plan koje su to male stvari koje možete da promenite. And then make a plan what are the little things that you can change.

I druga stvar

koja često ljude čini nezadovoljnim je preopterećenost. that often makes people unhappy is overload.

I to, bilo da je to zato što vi preuzimate previše stvari And that, whether it's because you're taking on too many things

ili vam drugi tovare, or others burden you,

more stvari, a vi ne znate da kažete "ne", a sea of things, and you don't know how to say "no",

ako je to slučaj, if that's the case,

pogledajte moj video watch my video

u kom govorim kako možete da kažete "ne". in which I talk about how you can say "no".

To je jako važno i to je jedna od stvari kojima možete da se odbranite It's very important and it's one of the things you can defend yourself with

Druga stvar kojom možete da se odbranite je da Another thing you can do to defend yourself is to

razmislite da li zaista sve to što radite think about whether all that you are really doing

morate da radite sad i odmah. you have to work now and now.

Zato što mi nekad preuzmemo tako puno obaveza, Because sometimes we take on so many obligations,

da je to neverovatno.

"Sve moramo", sve mislimo da moramo, "We have to do everything", we think we have to do everything,

Sve.... sebi nabacamo, napravimo We throw everything... on ourselves, make it

ogromna očekivanja od sebe, high expectations of yourself,

i onda u stvari ne možemo sve da ispunimo. and then in fact we cannot fulfill everything.

I onda se osećamo nekako preopterećeno. And then we feel kind of overwhelmed.

Moj predlog vam je da My suggestion is yes

sada vi jednostavno razmislite now you just think

šta je to s čim možete da pauzirate? what is it that you can pause with?

Nešto što ne morate da radite, nešto što

možete neko vreme da ne radite, you may not work for a while,

Na primer, ja sam letos, šest nedelja For example, I am this summer, for six weeks

stavila Letnji izazov na YouTube put the Summer Challenge on YouTube

i nisam snimala. and I didn't record.

Ok, rekla sam: želim da se odmorim i sada pauziram. Ok, I said: I want to rest and I'm taking a break now.

Onda su mi rekli:

"Pa dobro, manje će ljudi gledati tvoj YouTube, "Well, less people will watch your YouTube,

zato što nema klasičnih tvojih YouTube videa". because there are no classic YouTube videos of you".

Pa dobro, gledaće manje, ali ja ću da se odmorim! Well, they will watch less, but I will rest!

I onda će moji videi posle toga možda biti bolji. And then maybe my videos will be better after that.

Jer stvarno, dozvolite sebi da Because really, allow yourself to

malo pauzirate s nekim stvarima, sa kojima možete da pauzirate. you take a little break with some things, with which you can take a break.

I druga stvar koju vam predlažem je

delegirajte, tražite pomoć.

Delegirajte ukućanima nešto. Delegate something to the housemates.

Nemojte da se

jedete u sebi i da kažete: "Zar oni ne vide koliko ja radim?" eat in yourself and say: "Don't they see how hard I work?"

Pa ne vide verovatno. Well, they probably don't see.

I nije ni njihovo da gledaju, nego im vi kažite. And it's not even theirs to watch, you tell them.

Kažite, ok, šta bi mogao neko drugi da uradi? You say, ok, what could someone else do?

Šta je to sve što može? I onda morate da kažete. What is all it can do? And then you have to say.

I opet da kažete.

Lakše vam je da kažete nego da uradite Easier said than done

i sad kažete: "Meni je lakše da uradim, nego da kažem". and now you say: "It's easier for me to do than to say".

Pa dobro, ali razmislite, postoje li neke stvari koje možete Well, well, but think about it, are there any things you can do?

da kažete i da iskomunicirate to say and to communicate

i da tražite pomoć? Jednostavno, kažite: "Hej,

ja stvarno ne mogu više. Ovo mi je previše". I really can't do it anymore. This is too much for me".

"Molim te, ti uradi ovo. Ti uradi ovo. Ti uradi ovo". "Please, you do this. You do this. You do this".

Znači, preraspodelite malo zadatke So, redistribute the tasks a bit

i možda se malo

kako da kažem, malo se rasteretite. how can I say, lighten up a bit.

Jer poenta je u tome da Because the point is that

prestanete da dajete 150 posto od sebe you stop giving 150 percent of yourself

ne treba da se sad reducirate na you don't need to reduce yourself to

20 %. Kao, ovome date ovo, ono prestanete da radite 20%. Like, you give this this, you stop doing that

ne, nego je poenta da razmislite šta vam je stvarno važno. no, the point is to think about what is really important to you.

I da imate sto posto za to, što je zaista vama važno. And that you have one hundred percent for that, which is really important to you.

I za to što zaista jeste važno And for what is really important

Ponekad stvarno ja čujem od mojih klijenata Sometimes I actually hear from my clients

i mojih prijateljica

kako zaista poginuše radeći how they really died working

izginuše radeći stvari koje su potpuno irelevantne. they perished doing things that are completely irrelevant.

Koje nisu važne toliko. Mogu da

mogu da se preskoče ponekad they can be skipped sometimes

mogu da se ne rade...

Razmislite, šta je to u vašem životu. Think about what it is in your life.

Zapišite i napravite neki plan,

"ok, ovo ću da pauziram, ovo ću da prestanem skroz" "ok, I'm going to pause this, I'm going to stop this completely"

"a za ovo ću da tražim pomoć".

Možda nećete za sve dobiti pomoć za šta tražite, ali šta god

biće vam od koristi, bilo da je to na poslu it will be useful to you, whether it is at work

ili kod kuće, svejedno. or at home, anyway.

Potražite pomoć, ako ste preopterećeni. Get help if you are overwhelmed.

Niste ni svesni koliko ljudi vole You don't even realize how much people love

da pomognu. Ljudi obožavaju da pomognu! to help. People love to help!

Ljudi vole kad ih pitate za pomoć. People love it when you ask them for help.

Znate, pitajte ih za pomoć. Pitajte ih i za savet i za pomoć. You know, ask them for help. Ask them for both advice and help.

"Meni je ovo previše, imaš li ti neki predlog, možeš li ti nešto da uradiš?" "This is too much for me, do you have any suggestion, can you do something?"

Vole ljudi da pomognu. Znači, iskoristite to.

Ja kažem često ljudima I often tell people

to je velikodušnost! that's generosity!

Pitati nekoga za pomoć je velikodušnost

vi dajete priliku nekome da vam pomogne. you are giving an opportunity to someone to help you.

Ljudi to obožavaju, stvarno. People love it, really.

I vi možda preuzimate previše zato što And you may be taking on too much because

volite da pomognete svakome you like to help everyone

i da budete tu za nekoga. Dajte nekome priliku da to bude i za vas! and to be there for someone. Give someone a chance to be it for you too!

Ne morate sve sami! You don't have to do it all yourself!

Ne morate sve odjednom You don't have to do it all at once

tako da, to može da vam pomogne, ko zna... so, that might help you, who knows...

I treća stvar zbog koje su ljudi najčešće nezadovoljni u životu And the third thing that people are most often dissatisfied with in life

je što imaju osećaj da žive u mašini.

Da preživljavaju, a ne da žive. To survive, not to live.

Nego kao da je život neka mašina koja ih Rather, it's as if life is some kind of machine that drives them

jede. Kao da samo reaguju na nešto, a ne da eats It's like they're just reacting to something, not yes

agiraju aktivno ka nečemu, act actively towards something,

nego prosto reaguju na sve što dolazi sa strane.

Rešavaju neke probleme koji svi izgledaju kao hitni They solve some problems that all seem urgent

ovaj nešto hoće, ovaj nešto hoće... this one wants something, this one wants something...

ovaj ovamo, ovaj onamo... na Facebook-u izađu porukice...

na mejlu treba da se sve odgovori... everything should be answered on the email...

kod kuće treba sve da se uradi... everything needs to be done at home...

Znači, puno stvari koje sve odjednom onako So, a lot of things that all at once like that

dolaze i onda ljudi imaju osećaj they come and then people have a feeling

to nije samo osećaj preopterećenosti od malopre, it's not just feeling overwhelmed from a while ago,

nego taj osećaj da ne žive svoj život.

Da prosto nemaju vremena za sebe i za svoje ciljeve. That they simply don't have time for themselves and their goals.

Za ono što je njima važno. For what is important to them.

Nego im nekako život odlazi i troši se Rather, their life somehow goes away and is wasted

na neke stvari koje tako sa strane samo upadaju. to some things that just fall in from the side like that.

I oni nikako ne mogu da zastanu i da And they can't stop and yes

vide šta oni u stvari za sebe hoće they see what they really want for themselves

nešto da odvoje, bilo da je to za neko to separate something, whether it is for someone

učenje, za neko razmišljanje, learning, for some thinking,

za postavljanje ciljeva i za ostvarivanje ciljeva. for setting goals and achieving goals.

I ja uvek predlažem ljudima, da odvoje u kalendaru, da blokiraju And I always suggest to people, to set aside in the calendar, to block

dnevno jedan sat za sebe. one hour a day for yourself.

Ako mogu, naravno. If I can, of course.

Neki kažu: Ja mogu kad svi zaspe... Some say: I can when everyone falls asleep...

Neki kažu: Ja mogu ujutru rano da ustanem, pre nego što svi... Some say: I can get up early in the morning, before everyone...

Ili možda ponekad u nekom danu Or maybe some day

blokiraju neko vreme they block for a while

u zavisnosti od toga kakav je vaš život i kako možete depending on what your life is like and how you can

ali neće se samo pojaviti neko vreme koje je vreme za vas.

To je stvarno važno da razumete. That's really important for you to understand.

Ono neće samo doći. It won't just come.

Meni kažu ljudi: Ja nemam vremena za sebe. People tell me: I don't have time for myself.

Pa jesi li odvojio u kalendaru vreme za sebe? So, have you set aside time for yourself in your calendar?

"Pa ne, ali kao..."

"Čekam da jednog dana imam vremena za sebe" "I'm waiting for one day to have time for myself"

Neće taj dan nikad doći! That day will never come!

Zato je jako važno da vi That is why it is very important that you

razumete da morate da odvojite to vreme za sebe you understand that you need to take that time for yourself

da planirate, da imate vremena za sebe. to plan, to have time for yourself.

Ja imam svoje vreme za sebe. I have my own time.

Ja ležem rano, ustajem rano i onda ti jutarnji sati I go to bed early, get up early and then those morning hours

to su mi sati za mene. those are my hours for me.

Kad se nekad desi da When it happens

ostanemo negde duže i onda ja kasno legnem, we stay somewhere longer and then I go to bed late,

onda se probudim, ne znam, u sedam, then I wake up, I don't know, at seven,

meni je već moje vreme prošlo, my time has already passed

ili ga imam jako malo. or I have very little of it.

I onda osećam to

i to mi smeta, jer ja želim da imam vremena and that bothers me, because I want to have time

da učim, da čitam,

da gledam YouTube videe koji su meni inspirativni, to watch YouTube videos that inspire me,

ili govore o temama koje mene interesuju... or they talk about topics that interest me...

Ja jako volim da učim i ako to ne postižem, ja imam utisak I really like to learn and if I don't achieve it, I have an impression

da radim samo ono što je za druge važno. to do only what is important for others.

I zato ja često, na primer, dozvolim sebi da And that's why I often, for example, allow myself to

uzmem samo vreme za sebe. To mi je jako važno. I only take time for myself. That is very important to me.

Zato što onda i drugi koji su meni važni Because then also others who are important to me

imaju benefit od toga, jer ja se onda osećam bolje they benefit from that, because then I feel better

i mogu bolje da funkcionišem. Tako da i vama predlažem da and I can function better. So I suggest you too

ako to nezadovoljstvo dolazi od ove tri stvari,

kod vas, a to je da with you, and that is yes

da ste možda

kao što rekoh, da imate osećaj da preživljavate, da vas samo melje ta mašina, like I said, that you feel like you're surviving, that you're just being grinded by that machine,

da dozvolite sebi sat vremena da izađete iz nje to allow yourself an hour to get out of it

a ako je možda slučaj da ste preopterećeni

da vas drugi preopterećuju, da vi sami sebe preopterećujete that others overload you, that you overload yourself

zaista razmislite šta vam je važno really think about what is important to you

i da onda

nešto pauzirate, nešto jednostavno prestanete da radite

i da nešto delegirate.

I da, ako vas nešto od uslova života nervira, And yes, if some of the living conditions annoy you,

kao što je, ne znam, na primer, posao

brak ili okruženje,

da zaista sednete i zapišete šta je to

koje su to male stvari koje, nisu toliko strašne what are the little things that are not so scary

možda jeste, ok, možda negde maybe it is, ok, maybe somewhere

nekad ćete možda doći do zaključka da morate da date otkaz, at some point you may come to the conclusion that you need to quit your job,

ali ne morate uvek, da uzmete but you don't always have to take it

te neke male stvari and some small things

I da se možda već bolje osećate dok And that you may already feel better while

ne bude došlo vreme da se prave velike promene. until it is time to make big changes.

Eto nadam se da vam je ovo bilo korisno There, I hope you found this useful

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